Originally Posted by authenticallyme
***i agree about the forums 'overall and encompassing' purpose.......but it seems like no one here will step out and validate some of the things im reading. while i can now appreicate there is a process and depth here that although i may not understand, still exists-i ALSO read things (like on the homepage for Vic) about a testimonial where a dude got his chick to do a threesome. im sure he has all kinds of 'she-really-wanted-to's" to back it up, but sorry, i see some of the tactics here used to manipulate. not every post; not by everyone....but i do see it, and it is hurtful to me as a woman, and it also saddens me.......for other women, and even the men who use these tactics.***
bolded portions, to make a point. you cant see that i wasnt simply stating *my* thoughts, and wasnt giving acknoweldgement that not everyone is doing it, and i was trying to say i can appreicate the processs and depth here. i personally saw some good things i said in that there paragraph.....and i was just looking for some validation that the things i was reading here sometimes dont come across that some men who take Vic's lessons, arent using them for manipulative purposes. i mean cmon. every teaching tool can be abused, whether good or bad.
oh and yes, ive had many threesomes...i was quite the slut back in my day.
the main point of the paragrpah was to point out i was reading and seeing posts here or on the homepage that werent parralelling what some of the men here were saying to me. i now understand that some people who come here dont 'get' what this site is about, and a few people here (NOW have) validated that.......and i also understand the concept that no one here is going to outright, brashly, diss that portion of the board, as it is vital for any board to uplift unity, in spite of possible diversities. i wasnt internally 'assuming' anything about the man who had the threesome with his woamn, i was picking and suing that story as an EXAMPLE so as to get someone to answer me on that.....of course i dont know everything about that story. i was frustrated, so i picked a sample from the board to use to get some discussion, concerning things i have said earlier in various posts (about the few aspects i didnt like/agree with about the board).
i really feel that im trying to be NICER and willing to discuss, and you are just out to disrespect me personally because i dont share the same views. you are not gentle at all, and you win a lot more flies with honey. you are assuming attacks by me without even asking for more information, like 'is this what you mean?'.......how can you not see that you yourself are doing a lot of assuming (especially if you think *I* am)?  |