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Originally Posted by authenticallyme  flow.......i havent had ample time to respond to your lengthy post. havent been online much all week, and i used up all my internets time on replying to dman. lets see if he appreciates it or not.....(kidding dman, KIDDING.......*sigh*)
also, this IS NOT a 'loaded' question.....but do you have an open relationship with your wife? I understand if it is private, but just thought id risk the asking. no problem, if its personal; me comprende.  |
Its cool... I wasn't really expecting an answer anyway... and I noticed in some other post of yours that you must have red it
About your question, its a perfectly valid question, and I have been thinking about it. And I have come to the conclusion that its not a relevant question, because our relationship cannot be defined in terms of closed or open. There is a tremendously strong bond of love and affection between us, and we live very tight together. We run a business together, which means we work together all day long. We both think about ourselves as buddhist minded, we are clearly non-christian in our world-view.
As for relationships with others, we both tend to have very emotionally deep friendships with people outside our marriage. I personally find it easier to build emotional bonds with women than with men so two thirds of my very close friends are women, the rest an equal mix of gay men and straight men. My wife's friends are mostly people of both sexes and different sexual orientations who share her dislike for traditional heterosexual man+woman+kids family types, she finds such traditionally minded people totally annoying in their world view and life goals. Some of our friends are shared in that we each have separate emotional bonds with the same person.
So the question isn't "Do we have an open relationship?", but "How can we further expand and enhance our relationship with each other and with other people? And doing it without destroying something we have?"
We have talked about and share the view that we want our sexlife to become more exciting. How to make it more exciting is something we haven't discussed yet.
As for acting on this I'll just wait and pay attention, until there is an opportunity to let something just happen. Then begins an exciting journey. I certainly wont try to push things in any direction out of impatience.
Did that answer your question?
/Flow