[Pickup Professor]

I went out with a really cute college professor last night. I picked her up at her office and we both walked to my car and left from campus directly to the restaurant. She was wearing a black suit and had just finished teaching. When I saw her up close, I did not realize how good looking she is. She is only 5 feet tall but has a very cute face and a wonderful physique. I admit I appreciated her physical attractiveness far more than when I have seen her on campus in the past. I admit I was a little distracted by her beauty throughout the night, which affected my game. But that’s ok.

I took her (let’s call her Jane) out to a romantic, quaint, and quiet Italian restaurant. (There is not much to do where I live except for dining and good restaurants.) This girl has ENERGY. She kept talking and talking and talking. She is also very relaxed and enjoys busting people’s chops. As I opened the car door for her, I touched her arm. I touched her arm again while driving to the restaurant. We talked about work and her students. This topic makes her happy and we both have this in common, so I stayed with this thread for now.

We arrived at the restaurant. The restaurant, called “Café on the Green,” is located in the center of a large golf course. As I walked Jane to the door, I touched her arm again. I did not get any reaction from my gestures. We walked inside and sat down at the table I reserved: a window seat overlooking the part of the golf course that is lit-up at night. It was about 8:45 PM.

We sat facing each other. We talked about many topics throughout the night. This girl has so much talking-energy that I found myself having difficulty threading the conversation in any particular direction. I could not perform any kino during dinner as she never leaned forward except to eat. At some points during the evening, our conversation stalled. This may be due to my serious-minded personality that I have been working so hard to break. This girl is the opposite of serious. I found myself really enjoying her company for many reasons, but one key reason is that she has a tendency to break my seriousness. I actually found myself laughing much more and enjoying the interaction rather than worrying about it.

We had a great dinner and dessert. Then, around 10:15 PM. We decided to leave. I actually wanted to stay longer, but I think she wanted to go when she said, “I think our waiter wants to go home.” The restaurant closes at 10:00 PM and we were the only ones in the entire place. I thought this was a bad sign. If Jane was really interested in me, I believe she would have stayed longer.

We exited the restaurant and walked out to my car. I kinoed again. This time, I touched her arms and, very briefly, touched her lower back. She did not react to my gestures. We both entered my car and drove back to campus where her car was. After we arrived, I walked her to her car. She then stood looking at me and I looked at her. She gave me a warm hug and thanked me for a wonderful evening. But I wanted more. I looked at her eyes, paused, and kissed her. She resisted in that she only kissed me on the lips a few times, not the more passionate French kiss I was looking for. She was also backing away slightly while kissing. This puzzled me, but I did not get discouraged.

After this kiss, I told her I’ll call her this weekend. Then she said, “You have my number.” She referred to her office number. I looked her in the eyes and said, “I need your mobile number.” She smiled and hesitated. Here is where my leadership qualities paid off. Earlier in the night, while at the restaurant, an important leadership/dominance thread emerged:

Emilio: “Did I surprise you when I asked you out?”
Jane: “Yes! You really did surprise me. I was not sure what I was going to say at first.”
Emilio: “I knew you were going to say yes.”
Jane: (paused) “How could you be so sure?”
Emilio: “If you had said no, I would have said something that would have changed your mind.”
Jane: (responding very quickly) “What would you have said?”
Emilio: (after a brief pause and smiling) “I am not sure exactly what I would have said. But I knew we were going out. Whatever my mind came up with, I would have convinced you. I do not take ‘no’ for an answer.”

This statement, I believe, really impressed her. I think this is the only time I impressed her the entire night. Now, I was not intentionally trying to impress her. I think I succeeded in exercising dominance.

Later, when I asked for her number and she paused:
Emilio: “I will call you this weekend.”
Jane: “You have my number.” (referring to her office number)
Emilio: “I need your mobile number.”
Jane: (smiled but hesitated)
Jane: “Well, ok. Maybe I will give you a fake number.” (Jane was busting my chops again, laughing. She is so good at sliding these comments in a conversation that I took her seriously for a moment!)
Emilio: “Even if you did, I still would not take ‘no’ for an answer.”
Jane: (smiling and looking me in the eyes) “I noticed that about you.”
Emilio: (took out a pen and Moleskine book and wrote down her mobile number)

Afterwards, I kissed her one more time. Same thing. We only kissed on the lips a couple times and nothing more. We said goodbye to each other, entered our respective cars, and drove off campus. At the campus exit, our cars were briefly next to each other (about 3 seconds). I was taking a right while Jane was taking a left. I looked left, she did not look at me at first but did look at me at the last possible second before I turned. She did not smile or wave at me. Whenever I have successfully attracted a woman, she always waves at me when leaving. That did not happen this time.

Based on what happened throughout this entire evening, I have no idea how to read this situation. Is she interested and just being cautious? Or is she not interested in me at all? Jane knows I like her after kissing her a few times. I need all the advice I can get as to how to ‘pull’ this girl to me. This opportunity provides me a chance to really practice the ‘pulling’ strategies that I learned in bootcamp. However, I must admit I like this girl. She is the first girl I have met in a very long time that I noticed I am able to truly relax, and laugh almost all of the time!

Regarding my pick-up strategy, people who know me understand that I have always been, and will always be, a hopeless romantic. Yes, I am one of those guys who truly enjoys the romantic process. (If anyone wants advice on romancing your partner, feel free to start a new thread. Romance has always been my greatest strength in relationships.) I know the PUA wants to go from initial meeting to close in a matter of hours. The more I learn about myself, the more I realize that romancing my partner over a reasonable timeframe (e.g., a few dates) leading to passionate sex is very rewarding. Romance is my way for accessing a woman’s deep emotions and bringing those emotions to the surface. Trust me when I say that a sexual encounter with a woman is far more intense, extraordinary, and rewarding when her deepest emotions and desires are attached to you, in addition to the physical or animal-based attraction. I have experienced this kind emotionally-charged, passionate sex, as well as the more casual-based sex. I will gladly be a little patient and use romance to access a woman’s deep emotions if I know it will lead to the more extraordinary, emotionally-charged, passionate sex.

However, I see one key area where I need to improve: inner game. More specifically, exercise dominance more effectively, less concern or worry about any specific outcome, and have Jane work much harder to win my attention.

Fellow PUA and guests: any advice you can provide that will help me build what started last night would be GREATLY appreciated. Thanks!