[rarebreed]

This post is mainly for those who have approach anxiety. If you don't have approach anxiety, well, I suggest you stop reading or continue if you please.

I was thinking that this whole deal about rejection is just a subjective thought gone wrong. See, rejection is mainly connected to fear. Fear, as we should all know, is a powerful emotion that controls our behaviors. These behaviors are manifested from that fear that causes most men to act shy, needy, supplicative and everything else that makes woman want to run away.

The best way to rid this fear is to get outiside of the comfort zone we are all used to. When we do something out of the norm there is a rush of adrenaline because we are doing something that we aren't used to. The only problem I see is that this rush can be as addictive as crack or heroine because we get used to this feeling, but it's important to get over this addiction of adrenaline and get to the point where we can control it to where it's something normal so that we can get our intended outcome. This, of course, takes time to do. It's a never ending process, so enjoy it. I know I am.

See, I got "rejected" yesterday. I was talking to some girl at the gym. We were having a legitimate conversation and I asked her what she does on Thursdays at night. She said whatever and I told her that I have a friend who is a promoter at some club near downtown. She knew the exact location of the place. I told her that she should come and that she should bring a friend. I also told her that my friends would love her because she's got a great personality. She said she wasn't sure she should go because her boyfriend wouldn't like her hanging around a bunch of guys. I told her to bring her boyfriend along because it was a mixed crowd. I asked her for her number, but she didn't budge. I wasn't hurt emotionally and I didn't take it as a negative thing because there's nothing wrong with me. There may be something wrong with her because either she doesn't like to hang around cool people or she's not used to talking to people with great personalities.

I didn't take this as "rejection", but I took it as an experience to learn from. What did I learn? Well, first I learned that me trying to get her to meet my friends was a bad idea. Secondly, I learned that she was actually a rude person because of the bolded statement above. Third, the fact that she brought up her boyfriend meant that in her mind I was hitting on her, which is only a subjective thought. This lets me know that she's not used to talking to people that are interested in meeting others and she may quit possibly been a pervert because when a woman thinks we are hitting on her she's thinking that you want to have sex with her, but sex popped up in her mind when all I was trying to do is be cool.

Now, there are guys that do actually hit on woman by touching them too soon in the convo, but they do it to seek approval or because they're being needy. That's bad, but when you have the belief of being a sausage with feet that all woman want to take advantage of then all that neediness and supplicative behavior goes away and all that's left are behaviors that are congruent with the belief of being a sausage with feet all woman want to take advantage of.

The message I want to get across is that "rejection" is subjective and the only thing we have are experiences that make us grow into better men. When a woman thinks you are hitting on her that means she's thinking about sex before you are or your behaviors aren't aligned with the belief that you are a sausage with feet woman want to take advantage of. If you guys aren't sure which of the two you fall in, then I suggest meeting someone with game and change your beliefs.

Thank you for reading my rants.