Rarebreed:
Awesome post!
I would like to build on your post with some of my pickup experiences that relate to your topic. The purpose is to inspire and motivate other pick-up artists who are dealing with rejection.
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When I started bootcamp in January, my approach anxiety was so high that I could barely walk. Today, I can approach women far more easily. The key is redefining "rejection" in your mind. The moment I feel "rejected," I say this to myself:
"I was not rejected. I am learning."
I know this sounds like a cliche, but redefining a term requires you to change your emotions about the term. When you hear the word "rejection," how do you feel? Think about that for a moment...
Most likely, the word "rejection" brings-up negative emotions. What if positive emotions replaced the negative emotions? What would "rejection" mean to you if you were happy every time you were rejected? This may sound ridiculous, but makes sense at an emotional level.
For example, imagine a beautiful woman that you have seen that you would love to pick-up and take home with you for a night. Seriously, imagine her right now....
If you knew, with absolulte certainty, that you would successfully close with that beautiful woman after being rejected by 75 other women, would you do it? Of course, you would! I am not saying that you would close with the beautiful woman you imagined, but you would succeed with a woman eventually. Your success is inevitable.
Like many people reading this forum, I am still learning and early in my training. But I can tell you that, after applying what I have learned over the past 2 months and attempted over 75 approaches, I have been rejected more than 90 percent of the time. Sound terrible? Depends how you look at it. Prior to bootcamp, women rejected me 100%of the time (outside my social network). Now this number is down to 90% after 2 months of practice. What am I going to be like 2 months from now? 6 months from now? 1 year from now? In other words, being "rejected" is good for my training. The more I am rejected, the better I get. Period. Therefore, "rejection," to me, means "success."
The more I learn about pickup, the more I realize that being a successful pickup artist is 80 percent inner game, 20 percent mechanics (e.g., eye contact, kino, escalation ladder). (The 80/20 rule occurs so much in nature; pickup is no different.)
Hope this helps.