Night of 3/23/08
Day 2 with HBJap
First I will post the text convo:
HBJap: I have a hotel room to my self tonite if you feel like coming by I might have some people
Me: Sounds good. I’m goin to a concert, maybe I’ll be able to stop by after
HBJap: Cool. Have fun at the concert. Hope to see ya
Me (30 minutes later): How’d u find a hotel during spring break anyways?
Her: I paid for it. It was not full
Blah blah blah…
Anyways I found out from her where the hotel was (about 7 minutes away from my house). I went to the show, had a blast there, and went home to change, grab my bottle of Patron and headed over there.
I get there and she greets me with a big hug and a kiss on the cheek. We’re shootin the shit for a while, I’ve got her on my lap and I go to give her a kiss, then she proceeds to give me a speech on how she’s ‘sort of a prude and doesn’t really hook up with guys the first time meeting them’. I’m not buying it and mention something about ‘you can’t really put a timeline on sex, if it’s going to happen it’s going to happen’
She plants a kiss on me later when I’ve got my arm around her. She also showed me her tits at some point.
I’m on her bed waiting for her to chill out and relax so I can fuck her.. she brings up how my ex-wing called her, asked what she was doing, and when she said I was coming over he told her that I was “going to use all sorts of [pickup] lines on her and that I was going to force myself on her. She said he went from telling her to hook up/hang out with me to talking shit about me. Then she proceeded to talk to incessant shit about him til I was like “Ok, let’s not talk about this. Lets talk about something else.”
I got her talking about rough sex and lost the frame .. she started bitching about her parents and this and that… fuckin a this bitch could complain. Then she said she had to be out of the hotel by 11 and had no place to stay til her girl got off work to pick her up. I knew I should’ve left after she wouldn’t kiss me. As soon as she said that I felt like she was using me.
She asked me if she could stay at my house, and I told her not while I wasn’t there. I had grand plans of going to work but little did I know that all the partying Id been doing was about to catch up.. pronto..
She gets pissed, like really pissed, then starts bitching more.. “Why can’t you just pay for something for a girl. Do you ever just pay for something for a girl?” and I was like “If it’s a girl I’m having sex with, yeah I don’t mind paying for something here and there. But if it’s a girl I haven’t had sex with, I’m sort of a prude when it comes to spending money on a chick I barely know”
She got really pissed here and went on some fucked up chick logic feminist tirade “But you’re the guy” and then she was like “I need to go to sleep cuz I don’t know wtf I’m going to do”
I blew it somehow. but decided to cut my losses. I get the fuck out of there, and puke at the gas station I bought cigarettes at. I puked again at home and called into work.
I call HBJap, no answer. I text her : “You gonna keep being stubborn or are you going to answer your phone?
She called and texted back about 8 times but I was sleeping
Long story short, my wing stabbed me in the back, but it was my fault for not identifying the nature of the broad I was dealing with. I think she would've responded much more to sexual tension. I got my ass handed to me when it came to controlling the frame, but then again I’ve NEVER dealt with a broad like this. Like hot but really testy. I guess being more dominant and showing more of a willingness to walk from the get go would dilute or completely diffuse any shit testing. I’ll have to re-read this report a few times but I’ll figure it out. I'll edit if anything pops up.
Basically, goal of the night was to fuck this chick
My goal was progressing slowly but surely at first, but when I kissed her is when the shit tests started popping up.
What I should do differently is inject more sexual tension into the interaction, and show more of a willingness to walk. Also, a venue change would've done wonders cuz we stayed there partying the whole night.
I think I may've lost the lay when I let her keep bitching. Instead of changing topics and telling her I didn't want to talk about that shit I should've just said "Look, if you're going to negative and just complain about how everything sucks, I'm outta here"
I could've taken the set further maybe by sticking it out, or by escalating on her more even after she told me what my ex-wing had said.
I met this chick a while back at my old wing's house. They were dating at the time. I'd say July-August of last year.
I personally went there with the intention of banging her. I brought my camera with just in case. She might've wanted to get me to pay for the hotel, but I didn't offer and she didn't ask.
Now that I'm thinking about it, my tone could've been off. I wasn't sober, so maybe when I responded there was a hint of stress/argumentation in my voice. Or maybe she was trying to work me like a 'john'.
I don't know her to be a hooker.
I should've continued pushing forward.  |