I know what you mean...
In my experience, the more I worried about, and tried to control, my state, the worse it got. So I started allowing myself to NOT be in state.
Lo and behold, I found myself "in state" a lot more. States come and go, and you won't always be "in the zone" or whatever. But it doesn't matter - you don't need to be on fire to have good interactions with women. It's more important that you relax and allow yourself to feel however you want to feel at the moment.
What you'll notice is that you'll fall into that "good state" a lot more when you take pressure off yourself. |