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Originally Posted by Domino  Whats interesting is that the first time we met she was very unresponsive to kino the 2nd time when I moved up the latter to incidental three and a breif overt three (-without the kissing) it was so easy to move down the latter to lower levels I could grab her whenever I wanted. I would walk away over and over again everytime I got higher in the latter. At one point I was hugging her from behind with my arms sliding over her breasts. |
Definitely, it's like what Vin is talking about in the higher levels unlocking the lower levels part of the escalation ladder document.
If I felt I were on level 3 and were getting very close to the kissing level, but weren't in an optimal place for making out/ramp (in public or at a bar/club) I think I would just make sure I was very solid on level 3 to really amp the sexual tension. Some methods suggest putting up sexual barriers (whispering to her that you really want to kiss her right now but can't because you don't do things like that in public/with others watching).
This probably isn't necessary though. If I were in this situation I would probably go for the cheek-to-cheek ear whisper a time or two done in a sensual way, and also get close to her with some good sexual eye contact. Maybe even get in real close a time or two - close enough to kiss her but don't actually go for it... you're basically subtly showing her sexual interest through your vibe and telling her that you could kiss her but the time isn't right. Her reaction to this will tell you a lot.
If you have to start over on another occasion you probably will have to work back up the ladder but can probably do so faster. I do believe that you will still have to warm her back up to the higher levels. Girls always need to be put in that mood that makes them conductive to your sexual/intimate advances. Other times she might not be quite as receptive and it might not even have to do with you.
I would say that
eventually you would have to start worrying about the LJBF. If the relationship drags on and on for some time without progression to kissing and further then, even if it is clear that you are into each other, it may stale out and never amount to anything. I believe there is a certain momentum that needs to be maintained but this is probably a little different in each different circumstance with each different girl. Personally, I've started to get a little more attuned to sensing where that momentum is at with girls and in many cases it kind of stales out on me.... gotta keep the momentum going.
Hope that helps at all.