It is my true belief that speaking your mind will get you further than memorizing any line or routine. Now, it is also great to plan your approach and follow up; hey, if you want to do that, Kudos to you. But for those of you guys who still have trouble saying 'What to say, what to say', I want you to read and re-read this.
Speaking Your Mind
If you see her walking down the street and you haven't yet built the everyday courage to walk up and say 'I think you're cute and I wanted to say Hi', then you could go for something a bit less scary.
How about 'If I didn't talk to you, I would've regretted for the rest of the day' or 'Hi'
And when they reply with 'Hi' or 'Oh, why is that?' you could say something like 'I'm trying to get over my shyness' or 'I really don't have any prepared line, I just thought I would talk to you because it's better to talk with someone, than be alone'
The examples mentioned above are actually REAL, FIELD-TESTED and DONE AND TAUGHT by me. I won't promote myself here, but I will give you one of the most sacred secrets about great people.
They speak their minds...
but they do it with style.
Go out and say 'the first thing that is on your mind, or maybe the second', but do with style. The 'style' comes from calibrating your delivery. Keep in mind, that as far as it's genuine, it will have a good effect. But to be a seducer it takes more than genuine, it takes a combination of being genuine and agressiveness.
NOTE: By agressiveness, I don't mean hit her, neg her, push her. NO. I mean, determination, will, guts.
This is actually a real story and a real conversation that went down not too long ago with one dude I was helping out, I suggest that you go out and try it...
DUDE:'But what do I say!?? She's really hot man, and I wanna talk to her, but what do I say!??' (If this brings back some memories, it's ok to nod)
ME: Well, what are you thinking right now? I mean, what are you REALLY thinking?
DUDE: Well, she's hot. It will be random if I approach her, and I really don't know what to say other than 'Tell me a bit about you'
ME: Alright cool, go tell her exactly that. Something like 'I don't have anything ready to say, other than the fact that you're cute and I wanted to say Hi, can I sit down?'
DUDE: You serious...?
ME: GO
ME: Wait, before you go, take a deep breath and let that nervousness go.
There he goes, he seemed alright, I see him sit down. The girl's body language was open and 2 minutes later she was talking like no tomorrow. I leave without my friend noticing.
He rings me later to tell me that she asked for his number, and all he had to do was tell her that he was actually trying to get over his shyness, and asked her to tell him about herself, which she did. Then he told her about himself, things went smooth from them.
Speaking your mind is a concept that not only applies to approaching, but also to rapport, negotiating, etc. Keep that in mind. So when you want to do/say something, just go for it!
Seems easy, right? Well, it IS easy. Just got to have the calmness to do it.
In your honor
Daniel