[mycer]

ok i would really appreciate some advice here. first i'll set the scene. I'm 24, very social person (not bad looking too), also i have a good job, a nice place full of nice stuff. I meet a lot of girls all the time, at least 10 of my close friends are beautiful girls who i dont sleep with, however they do introduce me to their friends because im a nice, intelligent and interesting guy.

so i met a girl who is friends with 3 of my close female friends who have nothing but good things to say about me (im not a player, im very honest with all girls). she said before we went on the date that shes not looking for a boyfriend. i think; perfect, i dont really want a girlfriend, sweet. shes super hot so hopefully we can just be bang buddies.

so she shows up, we start talking, and we really hit it off. like really ive never connected to ANYONE like this so fast. and i felt that she felt it too. i have an interest in certain obscure writers and artists, and she knew exactly what i was talking about and we were both so absorbed in the conversation. i tell her about this art book and she gets excited to see it so we go back to my place so i can show it to her.

we met up at the bar at 8pm. stayed till about 10pm, went back to my place and talked till past 4 am. I was escalating a bit but i could tell she wasnt into it, like she didnt want anything to happen that night. so i just played it cool. we talked about so much and really got to know eachother and i fell for her like I've NEVER fallen for anyone before. I was not expecting this. I know its better to escalate sooner but i didnt want to make her feel too uncomfortable around me so i figured i'd wait till the second date.

now because she said she doesnt want a boyfriend, im playing it cool, didnt call her the next day but sent her a text 2 days after the original date saying 'wanna grab some drinks and shoot some pool tonight?'

no reply. I figure i'll wait another 2 days and if theres still no reply i have a few funny things i can text her with. basically i think i want this girl as a girlfriend... no rush tho im patient.

also i should mention that she didnt test me at all (?). she told me she has made some mistakes in the past with men (probably cheating). she is probably seeing another guy right now, but i doubt they connected the way me and her did. her friends say shes not a player and shes really a good person and shes broken some hearts in the past and feels bad about that so shes being cautious (actually she told me this). our mutual friends havnt talked to her in a bit but theyre doing some investigating for me and they really want the two of us to hook up, i'll post what they find out about her when i hear word.


any advice (or questions) is greatly appreciated.