[mycer]

you are right... thanks for your reply. i usually dont have much of a problem escalating because im more relaxed because i dont feel that there is so much riding on it. I think i was hesitant to escalate because i actually connected with her like i've never connected with anyone. i should have escalated more.

and yes she really is that special. im pretty sure im going to know her for most of my life, everyone i've ever connected with like that i'm still close with. im a really picky guy and out of the literally hundreds of beautiful girls that ive met, she is the only one that i could see a future with. i've had a lot of girlfriends but never met a girl that i thought i could be with long term, never.

i know i said i went into it looking for a bang buddy but we couldnt help but really connect.

i know she said she didnt want a boyfriend, but then i thought that also she didnt realize how intense our connection was going to be, i got all the physical signals that she wanted to be in a relationship with me, but not the verbal ones, so i guess i got into courting mode, basically afraid to mess things up which is rediculous because i'm sure a beautiful girl like her would forgive me if i 'moved too fast for her'.

so she gave me all the right signals that she like me, but shes being flaky. usually i dont ask for advice because i try the 'live and learn' type thing but this is no time to be experimental, this one matters and i gotta play it right. im sure i'll see her again soon, any advice or tips on what approach to take (aside from playing it cool and escalating, because thats a given) would be greatly appreciated.

also i have all of dicarlo's e-books, they definately have given me a lot of insight into this, but sometimes i wonder what aspects i should focus on in this particular case.

also i know shes not a player because her girlfriend told me (one of my closest friends who wouldnt lie). sure shes made mistakes in the past, she a beautiful, intelligent, artistic 22 year old girl and ever guy in her art school loves her. but shes broken some hearts and really feels bad about that (she told me this herself), maybe shes afraid of breaking mine.