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Originally Posted by diablo  -don't label a relationship a "serious monogamous relationship". it's okay to get close to a girl, REALLY close.. just like being in a monogamous relationship. but the small detail here is that there is no label.... the catch is, 95% of the time girls will ask something like, "what are we?" or "where do we stand?" ...and my response is always the same, "ya know.. i dont like to place a beginning (being together) and an ending (breaking up) to a beautiful thing." Sometimes the girls will just keep grilling you about it, to which i'd say, "listen you're trying to label this thing we have! we like each other and that's the bottom line. don't let you're silly mind try to make sense of all this!" ..this slots a girl into the *magical* grey area between relationship and friendship.
so this mindset will keep a girl in the grey area for as long as you would like to keep talking to her |
Read that again and think about it.
I think being in a relationship is great. I love the benefits of being in an exclusive relationship, but I always remind myself that these things happen over time.
Girls are really good at sensing when a guy is trying to push for a relationship. They are also really good at sensing when a guy doesn't want a relationship and just wants something casual. It's funny because when the guy has sex with a woman, but doesn't seek a relationship she begins to emotionally chase after him. Vice versa, too.
The main thing is not to push the agenda because when a guy goes in to an interaction with a woman "wanting" to have sex or "wanting" a relationship their intentions become very clear to her and he loses all his power. There's something that David DeAngelo talks about in his advanced dating series. He calls it the wanting it tax. To paraphrase his words, whenever someone wants something and they end up putting all their eggs in one basket...there's always a price to pay and it's usually not a good thing. The price is usually the outcome of behaving and acting needy.
I would take Zudnic's advice.