I'm only a user of this site not connected. Stores, schools, even jobs. The girls you frequently see even briefly you both are in a comfort zone and that makes the girl less likely to flake. They even have an idea of your background. Bar, restaurant, complete stranger pick up is completely different game. Pretty much everyone is a top ten kingpin in the borders of you're hometown.
My hometown and in high school up until my early 20's. Pretty much had easy pickings even using stuff much the same as Johnny. Can't remember being turned down, ever on my home turf comfort zone. Thought I was hot sh*t until I moved to Toronto and outside my regular habitat. Took almost a year to get a date, and she flaked. Moved on to another, she flaked. Onto another and she flaked. What is wrong with me thought I. Until I got my girlfriend who is/was hot! I did everything wrong and despite her flaking somehow I still landed her. Took several months. Even the kiss thing she resisted. Turned into a be careful what you wish for you might get it girl. The most valuable lesson I learned. Her best friend who turned to me for advice about something (abortion). 3rd year of the relationship and her friend became mine as well. Her friend said: "you know she always wanted to be with you!"
The biggest problem. Our backgrounds completely different and think even my social status scared her a bit. So I turned wuss boy out of being needy for one girl to like Me. This girl was the Queen of flakes. The first girl I dated was still with that girl. That one as well went flaky, broke dates, etcetera. Went from first date asking if I had condoms. To second day her telling me I'm the first guy who did not try to get into her pants! Did so with ease because she is relaxed with me. Having sex and crying next morning that she is not like that with guys. To not returning phone calls, making a date and showing up hours late or not coming at all......... Turned out live in boyfriend and drug problem relapse!!!! Other than that she was a great girl.. Most times flaking is the girls inner games and reservations about you. Sometimes its a big red flag.... For the first category could be the start of a great relationship. On the second meth addicts are awesome in bed and do a good job cleaning your house!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  |