dude the mere fact that you opened her is already shaping
she looked great and it made you wanna come talk to her
you rewarded her with your presence for being attractive
then the more you learn about her
the more you find out about her and like about her
the more you naturally appreciate certain things about her
the more you give your attention to her
likewise you might find out things you don't like
they could be things she tells you about herself
or little petty things about her behavior that annoy you
you will naturally discourage such behavior
even simply by turning yourself away or just walking off
nothing has to be said
this all happens on a subconscious level (hopefully)
the more you understand what you'll tolerate and won't
and that just takes talking to a lot of women/ people over time
become personable and sociable
and you will find the people who appreciate your presence
those are the only ones worth your time
however lets stick to a girl you find yourself liking more and more
now you start getting her to do things for you
and even tho she might not like it at first
she does it coz she likes you and wants to please you
she takes pleasure in pleasing you
making you wanna please her more
and the cycle continues
you're shaping each other into heavenly bliss
spy, you probably already do lots of shaping
and you're not realizing it
and that's okay
you don't have to know what you're doing
in order to do it "right"