[Zudnic]

My last girlfriend was one of those who liked to bring me down. And that was one of my issue's when we broke up. Felt maybe she was right, would never find another girl. A lot of our relationship was based on she felt sorry for me and slowly fell in love, yadda, yadda, was lucky to be with her. Your such a geek loser. So Matt's post hit a chord! Really messed with my game. Thing is I'm actually good looking. She was doing that same stuff because it was the reverse. Her being seven years younger made her insecure. She was afraid Id find someone more suitable in age and background and Id leave her! Her best friend once told me she always wanted to be with me!!!!!

The break up though. I did get into a anti-social, I'm not good looking and all the things she said must be true! Turned into a wuss and maybe getting another girl too feel sorry for me must be the only way to get a girlfriend again. Or more precise be a nice guy. Let them make the first move, etcetera. Felt like a loser and acted like one. I was a shell with no personality and a job with no real social contact. The youngest Women I worked with was 60 something............................. Started becoming more and more shy. Id go into bars and sit waiting for something to happen. The odd time a girl would approach, I had no personality and start qualifying myself why they should even keep talking with me. It was like a light switch, Women would come up all nice and excited nervous and Id be the loser and boom disappointment on their faces! Before this girlfriend. Had girls galore and in high school I was considered the hot guy. Started gaining weight and basically letting myself go! Looked like shit and had no personality. Went on a diet and started walking. Got into better shape. Took a job at a clothing store and became more social. Re-learned how to relate to people. The girls I worked with started calling me shakes because one of them said I reminded them of Brad Pitt in Sleepers! The other girls agreed. I slowly developed a personality and still learning how to build attraction. But know that looks and even money can be a huge obstacle if you do not have an attractive personality--Even for Brad Pitt himself........................................... .