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My housemate who I otherwise get along well with has a couple of annoying habits which piss me off.

I dont like ANYONE saying things to put me down not even in jest ESCPECIALLY not a friend. Its pretty weird cos this guy is really passive and is into Buddhism and all that stuff so its really uncharacteristic but every so often as a greeting he will say 'Whats up bitch?' to me. Each time Im like wtf? He has done this a few times now and once even in public. This is really irrititating especially in a public place people will be thinking 'what? this guy doesnt mind being called a bitch by this dude, I guess I can too!'. Its not the 'oh what will people think of me!' but rather I dont like it already and other people hearing such a thing only aggravates my distain for such action. It would be fine if I thought it was funny and we did it to each other but I dont like any manner of this derogatory shit.

It is not a question of his size to mine. He is a shrimp at 55kg to my 70-80kg, its just he seems to think this is acceptable behaviour to call someone and I do not but have not had an efective manner of addressing it properly. This is clearly because I am a 'pushover' which pisses me off to the core I hate being viewed like that.

The other day when he did it again in the kitchen I asked why he said it and I said 'well dont I dont like it' but I said it with my head in the fridge so I dont think it was with proper commitment. I doubt the message got across cos he said in reply 'tough'.

In the past, because I was so bad at dealing with these situations I have thrown the baby out with the bathwater by ex communicating people before giving them a chance to redeem themselves even if the problem might have been corrected because I simply did not know how to deal with such occurences and so got rid altogether. As Im seeing as I deal with more and more people, its important to be able to teach people how to treat me, ideally form the start by setting a precedent early so this is an important skill I need to learn if I am to continue to be a socialite.

Like I say I really get on with him well otherwise but this is an annoying gripe which has to be cautaurised quickly. It is not just this situation, many other situations very similar to this have happened in the past with other people so I have to learn how to deal with things like this in an assertive manner as they have been a thorn in my otherwise good interactions for a LONG time.