hey man how is it going?
Many things are going on here, there is many layers to it.
The way I'm going to have you deal with it is going to spin your head a little, so bear with me.
The first thing we need to do is to make you unteasable. People are saying this shit, and calling you 'bitch', and picking on you, and teasing you because it is fun. It is fun because it bothers you, and you are reacting.
The worst thing you can do is confront him, or react to it at all. The last thing you want to do is make an issue out of this.
I'm essentially unteasable, it is no fun at all to tease me. I'm completely unreactive, I'd sooner laugh with someone than get offended or bothered at all. The more it bothers you, the more people are going to tease you. So take the opposite approach to what you are currently doing and "enjoy" the teasing and name calling.
The core reason that people are doing this is two main reasons. And if you have read a bit about pickup you'll know that being name called or picked on or teased is death to your dominance, and picking up women. The first reason is how you think about other people (you must not be positive enough)and two you are doing things to give away your status.
I don't want to complicate this but the CRITICAL thing you need to do is react to this and any other similar behavior with kindness. That means the more offensive people are to you, the kinder you need to be. If you meet someone and he calls you "bitch" you need to say "Hi buddy, how are you? You are looking great today, I love that shirt, hey have you been working out, you look pretty fit".
You need to really see the positive in other people, and be more positive and friendly, and look for the good in people. You need to take charge and turn the process around. Your flatmate may be actually calling you "bitch" because he likes you. I call my friends all kinds of names like that as a sign of affection. It doesnt mean I am putting them down at all, this is how guys talk to each other.
So quit being so sensitive!
Matt
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