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Old 08-19-2008, 11:49 PM
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I think that what Matt is saying is that ignoring it and coming back positively has the effect of punishing the behaviour by not rewarding it.

Easievibe's housemate (Bitch-Dude) is testing Easievibe's boundaries. When Easievibe reacts, he shows that he has weaker boundaries (less self-control), which means less internal dominance, than the Bitch-Dude. Bitch-Dude then says to himself (unconsciously) "Ah ha! I have more status than Easievibe," and feels good.

If Easievibe just lets it bounce off him like a tennis ball off a tank (control over his own mental state), and instead displays warmth (high dominance character) then Bitch-Dude feels stupid and doesn't do it as much. Eventually, Bitch-Dude will stop. In the short term, making Bitch-Dude feel stupid may result in him getting more aggressive, just keep it up and you'll win in the end.
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