Ok here we go...
The 4EP model is a fantastic tool - heres how I think about it and use it.
You set your intention - whatever that may be - mine is usually to bring out the best in people especially women. What is their unique contribution?
so you have your intention - and that governs what your focusing on - thru mine for example I am looking for unique cool things that I like about other people and focusing on how they can contribute to my party.
So when your not worried about all the bad stuff that could happen like getting blown out coming across needy etc - your state is pretty relaxed and allows you to express your attention fully - which in my case is getting to know people and seeing what they can uniquely contribute to my party.
So with these things in order my expression becomes transparent and not distorted therefore everything works as its supposed to and I am a communication superstar.
Think about shaping a girl as something that is running in the backround - reward her by shaping her for things that fit into your intention of having fun and things you like
Ex. Catch her doing things right that contribute to your life and goals - if she buys you a drink - give her a hug or high five and reward her for contributing
Reward her for doing things you like - and esclate on high points for sure.  |