Trip to the Strip Club

DJ David · #1 10-16-2007, 05:55 AM

Hey Guys-

I hope this isn't bad form but I've always heard about how Juggler method was compatible with the Approach and Vin Dicarlo. I'm a Charisma Arts Alum and haven't done a Drills nor Approach bootcamp, but since Vin did a stripper system bootcamp, i thought this might be a good place to get feedback on my recent trip to the strip club. I pretty much only use Juggler Method, and was curious about applying the method to this environment. I used some advice that bigtonyatl posted on this board and some of what Mr. X talked about in his teleseminar.

Anyway, I was out on a meet and greet with new CA alum, Stone. After having a brief get to know you, I decide that we should try out our skills at the Strip club next door. A few weeks prior I went to the same venue with CA instructor SocialHitchhiker and another CA alum who frequents the venue, so I wanted to see what sort of damage we could do.

My number one rule whenever I go out is to have fun, and this venue was no exception. Stone and I roll on up and get a table which is in a high traffic area but far away from the stage. We order a couple of drinks for ourselves and end up just talking amongst ourselves while taking in the environment. I make it a point to be fully engaged in my conversation with Stone, and NOT the creepy, horndog customer who's spending the evening by himself with a drink and staring. We are the guys in the back who are having drinks and food and having a good time.

Anyway, we notice an old man tipping a dancer, and I come up with the idea of buying him a lap dance. I get second thoughts though when I wonder if his heart can handle it.

A little bit later, I notice a stunning half-Asian dancer talking to "grandpa", and then she heads over in our direction. I stop her:

DJ: Hey, you know that old man you were talking to?
Ms. Half-Asian: yeah?
DJ: well, I was thinking about buying him a lap dance, but I'm not sure if he could handle it!
HA: (laughing) That's ok, I know CPR!

Anyway, we get to talking and we get a very playful vibe going. For those of you unfamiliar with JM, some of the essences of the method is to find out about her, to appreciate her uniqueness and express sexual interest based on her true self. In this environment, I understand that she is working and that she needs to make money, but at the same time, I frame it as if she has to earn my attention in order to hang out with me.

I don't remember all the nuances of our conversation, but it is full of me teasing her, me disqualifying myself, her touching me a lot, me acting unfazed by it, me almost slapping her with the back of my hand on her crotch, her attempting to grab my crotch, and me making jokes that it is my first date with my wing and that I will be fucking him later. I buy her a drink after joking about how she only deserves water and playfully making her earn her time with me.

After more time together, I ask an open-ended question about her life outside of work, but she hesitates to answer and the flow of conversation goes back to our playful vibe. During this time, she ends up getting really fiesty with me, a genuine quality that I find attractive. After her doing this, I grab her hand and place both our hands on her leg while I grab and squeeze (all under the table), while I say to my wing with full commitment, "Wow....I LIKE THIS GIRL!".

Sometime later, she asks if I want a lapdance. I had always been hesitant about paying for a lapdance, but one of my CA brothers told me that it really isn't a big deal, and that it can actually help escalate the interaction. During this moment, I hesitate for a little bit, but go with my friends advice. She and I go to a quiet corner, and I act like it's no big deal. I don't get all gropy, and I focus on maintaining eye contact. I find out about her logistics ( she lives 90 minutes away in Sacramento but stays with a gf in town), her real name and then I ask again about her life outside of work but she hesitates again. Upon retrospect, I should have used the JM technique of following up her hesitance to answer with me answering the question from my own perspective, sharing more about myself and then asking her another open-ended question. I try not to act aroused but it doesn't help that she kept grabbing my dick and sticking her hands down my shirt and grabbing my nipples.

After the lapdance, I carry on as normal as we walk back to our table. Upon arriving at our table, I put my arm around her and say to my wing out loud: "I JUST FUCKED HER IN THE ASS! But I couldn't finish, b/c I went limp! I'll probably have to finish myself off in the bathroom", and we all bust out laughing. We sit back down, and tell my wing that he should get a lap dance with her but he ends up declining. A little later, she gets up and gives me a hug and says thank you. I then say to her, "sure honey, come on back later if you get bored", and get back to hanging with my wing.

We hang for a bit more, talk to a few more girls, and I tip Ms. HA when it's her turn to dance. She notices that we're on our way out, and she comes by and gives me a hug. I find out when she's working next, and I tell her that I'll come back another time and bring a bunch of my buddies. I don't bother to get her number because I didn't make a personal connection but the good thing is that I know when and where to find her, and where to take things from there.

To be continued...

Feedback welcome.