FR: the art of vibing and such

[funkyrhino]

This was actually a couple of days ago.


Alright so I just came back from $tarbucks and had a cool day meeting some
new girl. I walked up and she was sitting outside alone with a cup of coffee
and a book she was half reading.

Me: you gonna drink all of that?
Her: excuse me
Me: never mind I thought you were my cousin
Her: haha, is your cousin white?
Me: No she's magenta that's why I'm mistaken
Her: oh okay
Me: But do me a favor, could you watch my stuff while I get my coffee?
Her: sure
Me: If you take anything I'll send president Bush after you!
Her: yeah I wouldnt want that, haha


So I go inside, two girls and one guy is working. There's about 6 people inside, some on laptops, some in their chair reading books, a couple talking etc

Me: (walking up to the counter): Looks like an episode from Friends in here, people curled up on the love seat reading a good book drinking their cafe mocha lotta latino Al Pacino or whatever...

HB7 clerk: hahhaa, how are you doing?
Me: I'm fine thank you for being concerned with my well being!
HB6 clerk: We're always concerned!
Me: I feel such love in this place. I dont get this love at the gas station when ordering coffee
HB7 clerk: eeeww don't do gas station coffee!

I order my coffee and go outside on the patio where the HB7 is seated.

Me: you again!
Her: yeah your magenta cousin remember?
Me: Did anyone tamper with my book bag?
Her: just a couple of guys but I beat them off
Me: good for you! So anyway whats cool around here to do?
Her: Are you not from here?
Me: No I'm not
Her: really, where are you from (at this point she's turned in my direction)
Me: I'm from Canter ( I throw in a slight accent)
Her: I've never heard of it? Where is that?
Me: about 3 miles down the road past the Mall
Her: haha, Mr Smart Ass
Me: well it's not here is it? I told you the truth
Her: yeah, yeah you know what I meant. Thats a cool necklace by the way
Me: Well thank you, I must say I like the shoes you have on
Her: Thank You I just bought these, they were on sale
Me: they look really nice and they go well with your attire
Her: (smiling) thanks whats your name?
Me: (I tell her my name and extend my hand to shake)
Her: (takes my hand) I'm Sarah,
Me: Sarah nice to meet you. My ex was named Sarah
Her: uh oh not good
Me: No, good! She was mad cool. I loved that girl
Her: why did you break up?
Me: Sometimes you realize its not longer there, no hard feelings but you can't
continue putting wood in a fireplace once the fire has died. She's a great
girl though.
Her: awww, are you from here?
Me: I think we already established that I'm not from Starbucks
Her: silly, I mean where you raised here?
Me: No I actually ran away from home when I was a child and ended up
in Australia (paused) I was raised by a pack of wild Aardvark who taught me
the ways of the kung fu. (looking as serious as possible)
Her: (laughing) you're so goofy! I don't know what to believe
Me: (fake laugh) haha, okay you're right they didn't teach me kung fu. It was hopscotch
Her: (she was taking a sip and almost spit it out after I said that)
Me: whoa there! Did they try to poison you? I'll get a manager
Her: (regains composure) You're going to make me spill my drink
Her: are you always this way?
Me: no, just when I meet alluring women like you Terror!
Her: (punches me) its Sarah! You're fun. A lot guys are too serious

(at this point I cool off on the playfullness and we start talking serious for awhile and then she tells me she's hungry
Her: I'm so hungry! I shouldve eaten before drinking coffee on an empty stomach.
Me: I'm kind of hungry too. Look, you and I are too free spirits living in a communist neighborhood, why dont we say the hell with it and go down the California Pizza Kitchen?
Her: (thinking for a second) Mmmm that sounds cool! I love their fajita pizza!
Me: I loved the porkchops and fried apples
Her: They dont have that!
Me: Obviously you havent been to the one in the hood! Okay lets get out
of here before the police come
Her: haha, where's your car? Did you drive?
Me: My cars a stunt double in a new action packed movie - the lucky bastard. So I took the bus.
Her: So am I driving
Me: and the correct answer is yes!

(in the car I asked what she was wearing and smelled her neck up and down
she then turned my way and we made out in the car. Afterwards she bit her
lower lip indicating that she was turned on)


We had a good lunch and she gave me a lift home but told me she wasnt coming up because she just met me. I didn't pressure it at all I just told her cool and we made out some more and exchanged numbers. She kept thinking of coming up and when I nonchalantly got out of the car she kept looking.
I then looked back and said "well are you going to stay there or are you coming up?" She then bit her bottom lip again and then goes "I can't, I can't God I'm sorry I just can't right now" I walked up to the car and slowly kissed
her on the cheek and told her that I understand and that we'll have other
moments. Then I walked away and she drove off.

I got inside and put on some Journey. hahahahaha!

[raki™]

Whoa! Cool report dude!! i love it!.. I'm pretty sure you could have pulled it off if you plowed.. she liked your brand of comedy (well i did too, they're things that I can find myself saying)..

But why give up easily? Was it a " NO" or a "NO" that actually means yes.. way you wrote looked like it's the latter..

[Canjay]

hey funkyrhino, thanks for the post, I got more of a handle on the performing of the vibing principles from your description, so I know which direction I'm headed with it in the future

question is, I just read your March 22 post on disqualifying yourself in this situation before and it seems from this post, now, you completely obliterated that old past frame...

what clicked for you? if you don't mind relaying it...

if not, cool, and again thanks for the detailed post

[Brian]

Jeez - you are one witty dude! I could barely keep up just READING that haha...

My favorite part

"Me: Sometimes you realize its not longer there, no hard feelings but you can't
continue putting wood in a fireplace once the fire has died."

I'm curious, did you do a "dick point" when you said "wood"? Ross Jeffries style!

(he's got a perm now - either that or he zapped his head with an NLP energy ball of bad beliefs)

Great stuff bro - you could've definitely sealed the deal with a little intrigue. We've got an article coming out soon that will address this, but maybe something along the lines of

Her: "I'm not coming in I just met you."
You: "yeah, you might be one of those weirdo couch girls taht takes a nap on the couch and never leaves." (alleviate her fears by outframing her)
Her: "yeah haha"
You: "Tell you what, you can come up as long as you promise not to eat my food. Oh actually I have something I know you're gonna like." (assume she's coming up and throw in some intrigue)

Keep in mind intrigue is not "mysterious," it is simply escalating without any overt needy bullshit, not being predictable with your escalation.

Brian

[funkyrhino]

I knew what hand to play. As a result she's coming over tonight to watch movies, and has called me the last three nights in a row.

[funkyrhino]

she just left this morning: laid last night It's all good!