LR: f-close on first "date"

[spy]

Got to know this college girl from work (she came to my office once
with a friend). Later, she called me to ask me something (regarding
the same work stuff). We had a very upbeat convo, and I thought "dah,
a chick is calling you and then the convo is good -- gotta do
something..."

Was gonna call her in about a week, but she beat me to it and called
me like a day before. The convo turns to her acing a test in college
and I say we need to celebrate. We agree to meet a week later right
after I get off work.

She arrived as scheduled, all dolled up, and we hit a restaurant downtown and then went to a club aftewards. Convo went very easily and
with good energy. At the club we got some drinks and sat on the
outside patio (the weather was great).


Keep talking more, sitting very closely. I grab her leg and put it
over mine. Then we talk more with our faces very close to each other,
my mouth close to her ear most of the time. Then I kissed her and we
started sporadically making out thru out our convo after that.


I'm thinking, this is on. So I call up a buddy who works as a
bartender in a nearby rest. He has an apartment nearby, so we take a
walk to his rest and I grab the keys to his apt from him while she
goes to the bathroom.


Then I tell my girl I'd like to show her the view at this one place.
We go into the building and I am actually having trouble finding the
apartment -- it's a big building. So she goes "you forgot where you
live?" I say something like "yeah" and ignore the whole thing. Then, I
can't find the right key to open the door, so she goes "you don't live
here, do you?" I'm terrified, but just keep trying to open the door,
smiling and teasing her about something else.

We go in, I show her "the view", and after some short convo and making
out, clothes come off and we have some mind-blowing sex. No LMR. I would even say the opposite: she was dying for me to take her bra off, and then the panties.

I have fucked her several times more since then, and it's been even better. I haven't been calling her much, just trying to keep it strictly an FB situation, but the sex is fucking great.

Just heard that, to prevent a girl from thinking she's your girlfriend, you gotta see her no more than once a week. Will test this out...

Lessons: I noticed that talking to her very close to her face and ear made it extremely easy and smooth to kiss her. Will do so from now on.

[ballin]

Originally Posted by spy

Then, I
can't find the right key to open the door, so she goes "you don't live
here, do you?" I'm terrified, but just keep trying to open the door,
smiling and teasing her about something else.


Just heard that, to prevent a girl from thinking she's your girlfriend, you gotta see her no more than once a week. Will test this out...

Lessons: I noticed that talking to her very close to her face and ear made it extremely easy and smooth to kiss her. Will do so from now on.

* isn't it funny how she could kinda know that you were doing something out of the ordinary (going into someone elses place) yet since you didn't acknowledge it openly she didn't really care because she was ready to get f*cked already? Same as in my LR where I ask if I can get water from her place.

* the no more than once a week think probably does work especially if you really pleased her with the sex.

* the cheek to cheek ear whisper is money. for sure

[diablo]

your kiss technique.... i do the same thing.
flows so naturally.
awesome

also... funny shit about you keeping your frame
even when she was "you don't even live here huh?"
haha...
nice spy... NICE. haha....
also...
you CAN hang with her more than once a week.
i have a FB i fuck like 3-4 times a week...
i don't like to just fuck once a week!!
(although sometimes it happens)
she's hornier than i am. lol....
and you know what? she STILL wont kiss me.
but she'll let me tie her up and fuck her in the ass... haha....
the thing is... my FB knows that i see other girls sometimes.
she's cool with that
i've been open about it since the beginning.
i encourage her to hook-up with other guys when she brings up that topic.
but mostly...
she would never want me as a monogamous boyfriend.
cuz she knows how i am... and that's not her idea of a monogamous bf... lol

hope maybe using me as an example (of having a successful FB more than once a week)
may guide you down the right path with your new FB

[Endless]

The Incidental Class 3 into the kiss move you did is $$$$

[spy]

Ha-ha... Thanks guys for the good feedback.
The sex is still mind-blowing, and I did do it twice a week now. She's already giving me heavy indicators that she wants much more, and it sends me down a guilt trip. If any of you have tips on dealing with guilt, it would be highly appreciated. The thing is, I've known her for over a month now (I posted the LR a little late), and she seems to be extremely healthy on the psychological and relational level. Very feminine and submissive. That's why I feel kinda bad at times. The main purpose of seeing her only once a week and not talking on the phone in-between is to keep this from slipping into a relationship mode. I've been firm with it and even encouraged her to seek out other guys. She didn't say anything, but she flinched and had very bad body language and a sad face (this was in bed). So that's where all the guilt is coming from...

[diablo]

Originally Posted by spy

Ha-ha... Thanks guys for the good feedback.
The sex is still mind-blowing, and I did do it twice a week now. She's already giving me heavy indicators that she wants much more, and it sends me down a guilt trip. If any of you have tips on dealing with guilt, it would be highly appreciated. The thing is, I've known her for over a month now (I posted the LR a little late), and she seems to be extremely healthy on the psychological and relational level. Very feminine and submissive. That's why I feel kinda bad at times. The main purpose of seeing her only once a week and not talking on the phone in-between is to keep this from slipping into a relationship mode. I've been firm with it and even encouraged her to seek out other guys. She didn't say anything, but she flinched and had very bad body language and a sad face (this was in bed). So that's where all the guilt is coming from...

the guilt.

think about it like this spy
what makes you feel more guilty:

trying to keep this girl's feelings positive
or
not getting EXACTLY what you want out of life.

this is going to have to be one of those things you will have to "desensitize" yourself too.
if you know exactly what you want in life
and you are determined to get it no matter WHAT
you're going to hit some speed bumps like this along the way

yea, maybe she doesn't want other guys
i understand that
the girls i have sex with... don't want other guys either!
BUT, that does not mean
in any shape form or size
that *i* dont want any other girls!
i'm satisfied with my MLTR's
but i FUCKING LOVE THIS GAME...
going out, meeting someone new, isolating her, getting physical, fucking her..
I LOVE THAT! that feeling of hooking up with someone new..
it rocks!

i feel like you aren't getting all "serious talk" time on her
and that's very very good
so don't get that way...
just be that chill relax guy she initially fucked you for
and pick up new girls if you pick them up
and stop worrying about anything at all.
you can get away with anything if you have enough authority my friend

[dman]

liked reading that, the way you got a friend's keys to go round to his place