Wondering what you guys would do in this situation

[tricolori]

Ok, so about 4 weeks ago, I was at a party and met this girl which iv seen around a few time. It was good, because we spoke for a couple minutes, and she had to leave, so I grabbed her number. Id say she’s HB7.5.

I never ended up ringing HB7.5 back. However, a week ago, I was leaving a club, and I bumped into her. We then ended up going to this other club. There was something like an hours wait to get in, but I know the owner, so I got us in straight away and for free. The night went great, I played it well, and I could have even kissed her on a few occasion, but I though I wouldn’t, in hope she would want me even more.

I even told her she’s going to have to earn a kiss from me, and she laughed.

I cant be bothered going through everything, but the night really went well, we had lots of fun, the discussions were interesting / funny, he friends were having fun, etc, etc.

In addition, she kept telling me I had to make it up to her, for never calling her (she repeated this a few times during the night) so before we both went home, I told her id take her out the next night, and she agreed.

When I went to call her the next day, during the afternoon, she flaked out on me, and said I called too late, and said she organised something else (I had called at 5-30PM)

I then didn’t contact here again until the weekend, in which, we kept sending messages to and from each other. It was only then, that I realised she was much harder to get into than I first thought, and on top of this, she was also playing the game.

She would wait a few hours to respond to simple messages ... I remember one conversation going like this:

HB7.5 - What’s going to be so exciting about this weekend
Me – Its always a party when I am out
HB7.5 – you’re a loser lol … im feeling better so I might go out now
Me – why would you call me a loser for, I thought you were a nice girl
HB7.5 – I am a nice girl loser =)
Me – good girls finish last loser
HB7.5 – but loser boys don’t finish at all

So as I said, she was making it real hard to just catch up for even a drink.

I think I even pushed the cocky funny a little too far, and when I asked her to come out for a drink, she said, maybe if I stop being cocky.

I then felt as if she was going to flake out on me again, so I said, if your not interested, just tell me, which she went on to say, how she just got out of a serious relationship and didn’t want anything with anyone blah blah blah … to which I replied, hold your horses, i wasn’t thinking of anything serious, just thought it be fun to go out for a drink.

I then left the ball in her court, by stating that when she was free, to contact me.
I now have no intentions of contacting her again, and will just wait until she does, if she does.

First of all, sorry if this is so long.
Secondly, just wanted to know what others would have done … I know some may say, well don’t get so hung up on one girl… which im not, but I feel that every problem, has a solution, and if you do / say the right things, any girl can be cracked.

[Endless]

To quote your response to me in the other thread:

I think at times you read way tooooooo much into this stuff. You need to know when to play the game, and when to just be normal and have fun.



There's your answer. Kind of douchy of me huh?


Ok, all bullshit aside, you should ALWAYS be using Balanced Time Response for text game.

Let's say you text her at 10PM and she doesn't text you back till 10:30, you text her back no earlier than 11:00-11:10.

By using BTR you will ensure that you aren't coming off as too eager and set yourself up as a challenge.

You can gauge how interested she is by how quickly she texts you back.

Also, lately I NEVER answer the phone when a chick calls.



I would move on to another chick and use cool persistence with this one. I've learned that if you have to ask what to do with a particular chick then you aren't in the proper mindset to deal with her effectively at this particular moment. Rebuild your momentum via other chicks and re-engage her from a new standpoint of outcome indifference.

[tricolori]

Like i said, i have no intention to ring her / msg her any more ... if she contacts me, ill even flake out on her.

But every now and then, you get girls like this, that play the game them selves, and by doing so, make it much harder to get into ..... so wanted peoples opinions on how they approach difficult girls


About BTR .. you are correct.

[diablo]

Originally Posted by Endless

Let's say you text her at 10PM and she doesn't text you back till 10:30, you text her back no earlier than 11:00-11:10.

By using BTR you will ensure that you aren't coming off as too eager and set yourself up as a challenge.

You can gauge how interested she is by how quickly she texts you back.

Also, lately I NEVER answer the phone when a chick calls

BTR... nice.
there's a new acronym for the books

i agree with BTR... except, you can go a little overboard...
for example,
the girl for some reason or another, doesn't txt u till the next day...
i wouldn't wait an entire day to text her back.
i'd either wait like a couple of hours, or just not reply.
what do you guys think?

i also don't like to answer phone calls..
unless it's my homeboys.
if i don't know a girl, i wont answer.
i'll ignore her call... then text her.

[tricolori]

Yes, if she takes a gay to msg back, then id do what you said, wait a couple hors, or just not reply

about answering ... i hate when girls dont answer, and then msg me back ... so i will answer the call .. i feel a call if far stronger than a msg, and you can get far more out of it ... that being said, i seem to alwasy have my phone on silent, so i dont answer 80% of my calls