FR: Realization.. New Attitude and VIP treatment..

[Dominance]

This girl had approached me before when id been doing security at a fuel station.. I seem her sitting down and approached her and her friend.. at first she (the target) was a bit resistant with bodylanguage.. but I could still see interest so I leaned back a bit and let her lean in to hear.. talked a while.. told her she can be my bodyguard.. but there was one problem.. "usually bodyguards are big and buff.. and youre not.. but the plus side is your the cutest bodyguard i've ever had' she loved it and her friend did too!

Talked a bit.. got her number and a few minutes later they were going to another club and invited me, I said 'I will come later" and talked to some friends and then went there in about an hour..

She was happy to see me and like "you finally come to see me".. and talked some more.. I sat down with her and her friends and the friends were all trying to get my attention it seemed.. and eventually they left us alone.. she started giving heaps of IOIs so I went silent.. put my hand out.. she grabbed it.. I stroked her hair and kissed her..

A few minutes later she said "Im going to see my friend." and went to grab my hand.. I stopped her.. kissed her again.. and then said 'lets go' and we went and danced with her friends.. I grabbed her a few times to dance and she seemed a bit resistant.. and I made a mistake of kissing her in front of her friends which I think made her feel like a slut because after that she went off the dancefloor and I don't know where she went..

I seen her friend and her friend said 'shes gone for a walk shes upset..' I said jokingly 'did I upset her' and she said 'yes.. she feels like your trying to force yourself on her.. trying to get her to dance with you all the time' I said 'im not trying to upset anybody'... and she said "I told her that.. I said you were a really nice guy" (all the friends seemed to approve of me).. I should of asked her why it upset her.. I didn't get it..

Maybe she felt I was just trying to fuck her and nothing else.. where I actually find her interesting and want to see her again.. I left not long after to go see friends at a nearby bar.. I felt she thought I just wanted sex.. and she likes me and wants more than that so got upset.. but not sure..

So I don't know if I should of but I sent her a sms "I had a fun night.. Im going to see my friends. I will give you a call through the week"..

Don't know if that covers enough to see what happened.. or maybe it does..

Anyway..

1) Was I right in thinking that I shouldnt of kissed her on the dancefloor because she might of felt like a slut in front of her friends?

2) Should I have sent her the message?

3) What could she have been upset for?.. I didn't think I was being too aggressive.. but maybe I tried to dance with her a bit much and because I kissed her on the dancefloor.. she went a bit funny after that..

4) Is there anything I should say when I call her? Im not apologizing because I don't feel thats justified... but maybe tell her a story about meeting a girl at the nightclub ages ago and I was disappointed that I wanted to see her again but she just used me for sex and I never seen her again?.. to communicate that isn't just what im after?

-Ben

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