FR: Semi FR

[DGYE]

Ok, soo i dont remeber everything, but ill try my best, theres a downer to last nite and still kinda feel bad, and sometimes we have no control over things, youll see why.... BTW this will be just more of a writing..... Maybe some can use it, and maybe some of you guys with more exp. in the field can throw out ideas and what not....


Last nite, i told Fairgirl ill pick her up at her place at 6 (she gave me directions) so i arrive RIGHT AT 6 sharp, as im bout ready to knock on the door she calls me, hey

Me-Erro
Her- Were you at?
Me-I see you?
Her- You do? how?
Me-Im stalking you! haha
Her-hahaha no were really
Me- right out in front of your door, stalking you (ithen knock really hard)
(shes still on the fone as am i and answers the door)
Me- (see women tools in her hands) Let me guess your not ready
Her- No, im sorry
Me- Thats it, im goin to have to dress you myself
Her- Smiles and says no and give me a hug
Her- Follow me, and we go around the corner to the bathroom (shes finishing up her hair)

So we BS a lil bit and i tease her for not being ready and how were goin to be late (which we were ill get into that in a bit) but i glance over to this room next to the bathroom, and say somthing like, Wow, someone have a party in there last nite or did someone not know what to wear tonite and go through all there cloths? She laughs and says, dont look in my room, i cont. to playfully tease her about her room being messy and were joking back and forth.....

She gets done finally 10-15mins later, we leave at 630, and say well its 630 not 6 and leave it open she laughs and says sorry, i said somthing like well should just done everything for you. And that opens the convo into tons of things for our 35min drive to the fair.... It was a good 35min, tons of teasing, joking and BSing bout all sorts of stuff....

Right befor we get there we were talkin bout somthing, i dont member exactly what moment, but she said i dont mean to birng him up again (as she looks like shes about to cry, its the X).... I said hey, im goin to set some rules for tonite, 1. No talkin bout the X (hes HER one-itis) and 2. WE have fun and WE enjoy ourselfs! Tonite is for US to have fun!!! Lil did i know soon enough it would take a turn.....

We arrive at the fair, we get outta the truck and i stick out my arm and she takes it were walkin and talking get to the gates and i just felt a bit of setness from her (that was the last time i had her arm) payed and went in. We go to the main stage were the concert was, but we were to late and they police said they were all ready over MAX Compacity!

Fairgirl- that sux
Me-i said, something like, hmm if someone woulda been ready ( and pointed to her hair)
Her- I really wanted to go to, im sorry
Me- Well lets not waste time, were here what do you wanna do
Me- Let me guess, grab some food and a beer
Her- Siiiiiiigh, ya i am hungry
Me- (put my arm around her shoulder) Ok lets go, what do you want, and i started naming off stuff i could remember seeing on the way in
Her- O i know, plate of curly frys, a beer and a idaho icecream potato
Me- Good, lets go searching

We start walking and just BSing bout how it woullda been fun to get to watch the concert this that and the other

We get food and go sit down at one of the stages were a comidan is about to start. So were BSing and a friend of ours walks arond the corner... We all sit there and joke around havin a good time, we watch the dood do his show... After she says lets go find that pic of xxxxx.....

This is were the whole vibe changes........................

[FreeVerse]

For some reason, I get the sense that she might be gaming you. before this, she cancelled like two times, then on the day, shes late, then she talks about her ex on a date... but I don't really know the whole situation.

I think you're doing fine, I wouldn't ask a girl what she wanted to do though i'd tease her about something else besides her being the reason why we didn't see the concert. that's pretty close to crossing the line.

I got a quesion however, are you like attatched to this girl? cause I read your posts about this whole thing, and it seems like you're too invested in it, and women can smell that. Even if you are a great guy to hang out with if you're too invested at first, they'll throw all this shit at you.

[DGYE]

We get into the building with lots of booths and what not, were walkin around (our friend is still with us) and im jokfully saying and doing st00pid things just to make em laugh and we walk around the corner.......

I see it, that IT being the MADD booth with the crumpled up car that dont even look like a car or what even resembles one. Its her cheeleading coach of 5yrs who died 2yrs ago with his daughter when a Drunk hit them... There was a huge picture up and everything all over....

So i turned to try and to get her to go another way, but i was to late, as soon as i made eye contact with her she made eye contact with the pic and then looked back at me, then she looked back at it. I grab her and she PULLS me towards it, and i seen it coming, i felt a shift in her body, her face looked like she just seen a ghost. I pull her away, walk her down around the corner and just hold her while shes just balling and balling... (FYI we talked about him prior and i knew him as well)

About 10min later and a 1 soaked black shirt, im getting her to do breathing techniques and calming her down..... Shes asking why do they still have that, we talk and what not.... And i try to get her up and goin and get her mind off it......

Needless to say, it went "down hill" sota speak after that.... Our friend has to leave and me and fairgirl are just walkin arond, i try everything i can to make her smile and keep it there, but it just wasnt happening, she would smile that corny hahaha smile and laugh which was good but not good enough... We find the pic that she was wanting to find and then we just walk around aimlessly BSing but nothing interesting, but i do keep my focus on keeping her attn on me and off what she just seen....

She says she has to use the bathroom and so we go i wait, and she comes out and asked me if it was ok if we left and i said sure.....

On the way out to the truck, outta the blue, she goes did i tell you bout "D" i said no, and she precides to tell me bout this guy shes been talkin to since jan. but isnt her "type" but they get along good this that and the other and that she has a lunch date with him today.... Then asks, do you belive in love at first site, and i reply with no, i dont. She asks why and i explain, and we end up agreeing to disagree.....

We have good convo all the way to her place. i pull in, turn off the truck she thanks me for a good time and being there for her and being a good guy, and then is lookin around for her stuff (she left stuff in there while we went in the fair) So i start lookin around for it, and she says eh dont worry bout it, but by that time im all ready out of the truck lookin in the back cab.... Shes says no worries ill get it from ya later..... So i said well ill find it and make sure you get it back (its her mascara she was doing her make up in the truck but she ended up leaving her bootie socks, body butter and gum there as well haha)

I walk her up to the door, gave her a hug, look into her eyes, said i hope you enjoyed yourself tonite. She thanked me and smile she gave me a hug and said ill talk to you later and i said sure thing smiled and left.....

Aye, what a nite...... TONS of Kino, from me, nothing coming back from her really tho other then playfull bumping while walking. Tho she never pulled back from it when i put my arm around her or anything....

When she started crying, i felt like will smith in the movie "Hitch" when he take Eva mendez to the sig. book and she starts crying! Errr I HATE HATE HATE that helpless feeling, hell i still kinda feel bad this morn!!!! Siiiigh i know i know theres nothing i can do, gotta love being humen!!!!





So guys, tear it apart- and hopfully we can all learn somthing fromthis

[DGYE]

Originally Posted by FreeVerse

For some reason, I get the sense that she might be gaming you. before this, she cancelled like two times, then on the day, shes late, then she talks about her ex on a date... but I don't really know the whole situation.

I think you're doing fine, I wouldn't ask a girl what she wanted to do though i'd tease her about something else besides her being the reason why we didn't see the concert. that's pretty close to crossing the line.

I got a quesion however, are you like attatched to this girl? cause I read your posts about this whole thing, and it seems like you're too invested in it, and women can smell that. Even if you are a great guy to hang out with if you're too invested at first, they'll throw all this shit at you.

The BF thing had come up cause of things we were talkin about and i threw out a couple ?s and it involved him....

Ya thats why i only did a bit of it so i didnt cross the line, then turned real quick to getting food...... But your right, i thought about that later!

To answer your ? no, im not attatched to her, tho, i guess it looks like it from yalls POV.

[FreeVerse]

Wow, dude, that whole thing abou the pic is crazy... as far as I see it, I think you're doing fine. Seems like you gotta persist with this girl.

[DGYE]

Ya when i seen the car and then the pic i thought O $HIT, i gotta get her away from this! But it was to late like i said...... It totally caught me off gaurd and so i tryed to focus and fig out what i should do in that type of sit. but all that kept coomin to me is comfert her and keep her mind off it.... Sux to cause she grew up with out a father and she said he was like hers for the last couple yrs untill he died.....

I dont know were ill go from here with her, but ill get her back her stuff and if i see her ,then great, if not, owell I had fun none the less!

[FreeVerse]

whatever it is you choose, you make it happen.

[DGYE]

Originally Posted by FreeVerse

whatever it is you choose, you make it happen.

Yes, Thanks FV!!! I think ill make one more attempt how and when i dont know?


If anyone else has opinons, thoughts, sugestions, ETC. feel free to post em up so i/we can learn.......

[Inastate]

Personally I think it's time to resort to an age old seduction technique that very rarely fails...Tequilla Shots. I agree with FV. You've both invested to much here, and if you don't escalate soon to at least a kiss, the precedent will have been set and friends zone will be waiting for you round the corner. Seriously...PU isn't this hard nor should it be this hard. Get her pissed, hang out, have fun, escalate.

Lotta people would say I'm crazy but that's what I'd do.

Inastate

[DGYE]

ROFLMAO.... Ina is brin it back WAAAAY ol skool.......

Cant do that anyways, said last time she had liqor very bad things happend and she wont ever do that again! Plus i couldnt do that, thats just me...... Now if she was to do that on her own, well then maybe? lol

Ya weve invested some time, but i still dont think its tooo late especially with the things thats happend? Ya i prob shoulda done something befor, but i just wasnt feelin the vibe and soo i hung back a bit, and im sure if i had the experiance you guys do i coulda swung it! But i dont......

So like i said, ill give her one more try and see were it goes....... Im thinkin wen. eve. since ill "be out by her place" ill see if shes home so i can give her, her stuff back and just say somthing like hey, im goin to grab some food/ice cream, come with me (what else to put? hmm) lol


FV and INA- Thanks for the comments and time youve takin to help! Its VERY much appreciated!!!!!!