My First Field Report: Frat Parties, Costume Parties and Concerts

[A.J.]

I’m going to start off with an introduction; so for those of you that just want to read the field report, skip the next paragraph.
First off, I’ve always been shy and poorly socialized. What few friends I have were formed by one common interest: videogames. When I went to high school, I started having seizures and doctors said videogames helped cause them; this alienated most of my friends because all we did was play videogames. When I tried to make new friends, I realized I didn’t know how, so I became even more shy. I also ran out of things to say when talking to people. My name’s A.J. and I have been a member of this forum for a long time. I rarely posted because I had no experience and I hate KJs. I’ve been in the community since I was 16. I discovered it through The Game, like many people. The next two years I spent studying every bit of material I could get my hands on. I’ve gone through almost every conceivable product in the community. How did I get a hold of the products if I was under 18? Don’t ask and I won’t tell. I jumped from studying canned game to natural game. MM, Style, ., Vin Dicarlo and Juggler. The thing is, I never put any of this information to use because I had that all-powerful enemy called Approach Anxiety. I just couldn’t bring myself to talk to girls no matter what I thought or tech. I tried to employ. When I got to college August 16 and turned 18 the next day I swore I would do what it took to get this handled. I decided to try and take a workshop with my birthday pony because it was all I could I afford and he seemed to know Juggler well. That fell through when I had to buy books for college. Way more expensive than I thought they would be! Luckily my birthday pony was kind enough to start helping me though instant messaging. Thanks to his view on life and his post Losing The Agenda, I can now approach girls every once in a while. The results are amazing so far; I just have to stop hesitating and approach more often. Okay, this introduction was more for me then you. Let’s get to the meat of this.

First approach: This was my first day at college and my birthday pony hadn’t helped me yet. The greek frats had a school party for the freshmen to recruit. I went, thinking it was a good place to approach girls. I wandered around the party, looking for a girl to talk to and trying to get the balls to do so. After a half hour of doing this, I open this asian chick and creep her out because I was too close. I say “I creeped you out, didn’t I?” She says “yes” and actually seems happy to continue the conversation. I can’t think of anything to say after that, so I walk away saying “bye”. That’s it for that night. I beat myself up, even though it was my first approach ever.
Second approach: This was my third day at college and I decide to go to this party at the rec center. It was actually funny; one table there had a guy showing people how to put condoms on using a dildo. One of the funniest moments of my life. I eventually wind up on a couch watching people sing karaoke. It makes me feel good because now I know there are people who sing as bad as I do. A group of people sit next to me and I start talking to a girl next to me. Basic boring questions about school, where’re you from, things like that. I wind up leaving with this group and we go back to their dorm hall. That’s when we find out there’s a freakin BAT in their hall. When we finally get inside, I ask the girl for her number and SHOCKER, she gives it to me. I still haven’t called it. I can’t seem to follow up on my interactions.

Third Approach: My birthday pony’s post has an influence on my game today. I have no agenda. I don’t approach anymore, I just talk to people. The ideal mindframe to get into: I do what I feel like without caring what people think, give value and I don’t hesitate. While I haven’t reached it yet, I hope to soon. This approach happened this Friday. I’m on my way to a free concert the college is having for us and I chat up a group of people. I find out that Keith Anderson, the guy playing at the concert is actually famous, not some random Ohioan guy. That’s interesting until we get there and find out that the line is freakin endless. While we wait in line, I talk to the group and start having fun. When we get to the concert it’s actually fun even though I don’t’ like country music. When it’s over a girl I’ll call K and I get separated from the rest of the group and she takes me to her room. Note that I have no game; all I have is one freakin post to guide me through this. I even got the classic line “You have to see these pictures from the concert.” and I still chickened out. I looked at the pictures and left. Damn, it’s my third approach and I have a girl taking me up to her room. Life is weird.

Fourth approach: I walk around campus because I’m trying to get into the mindframe of doing what I feel like without caring what people and giving value. I talk to two people, a guy and girl by saying “What’s with that circle of people over there?” I somehow wind up in the girl’s room. And now all I have to say is “Bawk, Bawk”.

Fifth-? approaches- I go to frat party, which I find out are incredibly boring. My friend, who is going to a different university than me gives great advice. “Don’t go after these frat girls, they’re almost all whores. You ever heard of STDS?” I hate to say it, but it’s true. I can tell a frat girl a mile away. Overtanned skin, blonde, trashed or stoned most of the time. Don’t mix up frat girls with sorority chick. Two totality different types of girls. The night gets better when my friend gets kicked out of the party for dancing with a frat boy’s girlfriend. He goes to another frat party. I’m sick of those and decide to go back to my dorm, when I stumble upon a costume party. Yes, a place where people aren’t stumbling around stoned or trashed and the music is low enough so that I can talk to people. I talk to girls dressed as White Trash, Pippy Longstockings, Hermonine (I think that’s the right spelling), and a few others. I became the Ohio Lottery guy because I had a shirt that said that. I also became friends with Michael Jackson, Peter Parker, Harry Potter, and Zorro. It was fun. I found out that I love a sense of connection with people.

Good Things I Found Out: I can somehow wind up in girl’s bedrooms, I can hold a conversation longer, I like sober girls more than drunk ones, Losing the agenda is freakin awesome, I can approach girls.

Bad Things I Found Out: How the hell am I getting into girls bedrooms? I have no idea what I’m doing right, I chicken out, I still don’t know what to say a lot of times, I see hot girls and think of an opener right away even if I’m far away so I chicken out when I get near, I can’t approach a lot of times.

The Funny: A girl walking away when I’m with a group of people when I ask “Are you tired?” since she was leaning her head on her friend’s shoulder, I couldn’t stop thinking of Mystery when I saw the Michael Jackson costume, my friend getting kicked out of the frat party, White Trash dressed in a white garbage bag, and the one’s girl’s response to “What’s with that circle of people?” She said, “It’s a group of witches practicing evil magic.”

The Stupid: Beating myself up over chickening out

I would appreciate any responses. I want to see what guys here think of my success.

[karas]

hey man we're exactly the same.

When i was younger my parents were really over protective so i wasnt really able to go out much.

I played a lot of video games. Thats how i made friends. we would start talking about games.

Ive been in the community for about six months now. I did my first approach back when i was 17.Two of my friends and i went to this club for teenagers. There was this very pretty girl putting on the wrist bands, so that you could get in. We went in and everybody is jukin. At that point of my life i had never juked before so i had no idea of how to initiate it. I was nervous as hell but i decided that it was something i wanted to experience.

I walked up to this girl and said "Hey lets juke" She turns away from me and im like f@#k is she ignoring me. I was about to leave when she bent over rammed me with her big booty.

She rams me onto a wall and starts grinding on me. I have to say that it was probably one of the most painful times of my life. I literaly thought it was going to fall off.

[karas]

After that, we hanged out for awhile. We were leaving when i just thought hey what the hell and went up to the wristband girl. I asked her about clubs and if she knew any good ones near by. she told me about some and we talked for a bit when she just looked at me and said how old are. Back then i didnt know about the game so i just told her. I asked for hers and she said 24. The convo pretty much died right there but my mind was blown. I had hit on an older women, i felt badass.

Soon im going to start my second year of college im going to use it as my practice range.

Pretty much all i can say about your post is good job man. Your out there honing your skills. Practice makes perfect. But You have got to figure out that secret for going into girls bedrooms and share it with me.