Akaisoras journal Direct method journalls

[akaisoras]

I hit the shopping mall with my friend and his gf, i decide to approach sets by myself, when my friend occupies his gf,,


ok so i approached 9 fuking sets i am exausted, all direct approachess!!

1st approach, it was at abercrombie i said Hey i like you i d like to get to know you , i said it very incongruently , so i had to repeat myself , the girl liked it i guesss so i got her number

2nd approach, this white women with her mom, i was like suck it up and go approach when her mom was there, I say heyy i think you look cute , i d like to get to know you , she says thxx , in a rude voice, i m married

3rd approach, in a shopping store the manager smiled at me, i started talking to her, and got her number and hugged her

4th i approached a asian girl, i said hey i think you look cute , i d like to get to know you, she says sorry i have a bf

5th approach, a hot asian lady, she says she has a bf,


my entire family went to a restaurant , uncle and aunt alot of game blockers,, i was thinking, wait till the waiter sitts us down and i will leave my family and approach, i say fuk it waiting too long, im going in so i see in a restaurant, 1 mom , 1 sister, and target, this is the most stunning approach of my life, i put my hands on their table , thinking i aint giving a shit about the mom and approached, i said heyy i think you look cute i d like to get to know you, i m ___ whats your name , got her name and her sister was smiling , she was smiling, her mom was smiling, she says she has a bf, i leave table, but the girl looks at my table randomly then she leaves , they run by my table as they leave, i had to leave it at that

7th , i chased after a 2 set with a dad, somehow in the middle of the chase she sat down, i say i think your cute i want to get to know you she says she has a bf, her dad comes back i leave

8th i was gonna take my treat one approach per restaurant, or drink shop scenario, i went with my family aunt and uncle and cousin, i say fuk them i m gonna go approach when i m here, i was like shit , all supper mixed sets today, so i just approached the work at a drink shopp directly , she says she will give me email, i enjoy talking to her, and get a bonus to my drink i boughtt

9th 2 white hispanic looking girls, they say they have bf, shake hand leave

10th approach , a girl working, i directly approached her clothing store, she says can i just give you email, i say sure

ok 10 approaches today, 2 days ago i had 2 approaches, big improvment , i am fuking exhausteddd....


10 approaches 4 numbers not too bad for direct eh?????

the girls i have number arent the girls i seriouslly like, but i d date them for sure,, i m a few steps close to what i want now... breaking out of this society barrierr

all these approaches , i couldnt really get the i like you , i d like to get to know you

girl from shop calls me back , i didnt pick up i was with parent and family, i m still pussy to talk to girls for a long time when parents are there, trying unblock that, too bad that girl is not really a girl i want to date , so i havent picked up yet , i ll have to see in a few hours clear my minddd

the opener very uncongruent so far, they fuking turn into god damn questions damnit, bad opening, ok fallow upp , still at it, still have some fear for white women, but i m getting there ,,

so i gues i work on congruent loud opener, getting past i have a bf, better kino skills, and push for instant datesss

enough for the damn day i m tireed

[akaisoras]

Thxx Pastichee,, feel more encouragedd

Todayy i did one sikkk approach,,

i came back from my shoalin martial art place, with my friend

there were 20 people outside, Biggest mixxed set ever, 12 guys and 8 girls messed up stuff ,, of a restaurant taking a picture, and there was a hottie asian girl to my left which is the picture's rightt

right when the picture was about to take , i decided to do something fuked upp, i was fukk those shits i m going in,, right when the picture was about to go down i went in diagonal from the side, and yelled to the girl, HEyy, i think your beutiful , i d like to get to know you,

i someone how got in the picture...., she start blushing and laughing, everyone else in the group start laughing, and she says her bf is behind her..

well thats one life threatening direct approachh, hope i can do some more of this shiitt, one approach for todayy thats itt.

i got in the car and left after that , one nast ty approachhh

wonder if i would do some shit like that aagian,, , some thrilling adrenaline after wardd

i wonder if i can go to the mall by myself , and approach 20 girls in a row, with the next girl seeing me get rejected by the last one, according to shark, it actually increases the chances to talk to every girl in a spot, even if you get rejected, nobody knows , and consistently talk to 20 sets in a roww wonder if it ll raise value or lower chances ,, probably wont know unless i try it, havent actually had that happen yet so i don t knoww ,

you guys ever?????

one more thing is , i love doing approaches, it practices my skills ,,, but i really want to date one of these hot chicks i m approaching, but if i start a relatiionshipp, would i have to stop my approaching, or should i just keep approaching even tho i have a chikk???? i need to keep improving my skills

[akaisoras]

Okk todayy i went to my favorite shopping mall , with beufiful womenn, too bad school just started the women are all pretty olld here was a thrilling day, here is what happeneddd

i go in cokky, knowing i can get any girl in the shopping mall, cokyy ass inner game

the day started out dull, i thought i lost it from not approaching alot from the previous day, but i somehow had it on instinctt

total of 15 approachs in a row at shopping mall, white , asian, black , mexican 1 number 1/15 very cruel dayy

first approach, a fine ass asian lady in red a bit was moving at 10 miles per hour, i say heyy your beutiful, she heard that says thxx, and walks off so fast, shes like i have to go somewhere,
but later i caught her again, i stop her, i say hey i want to get to know you, then she shows me her ring, i was like ooh damn i!!!

2nd, in a shopping store, i didnt catch the girl's face so i sayy , heyy i think ...... she turns around her face OMGG , i just left and said oo nvm i was just wondering around the store i had something to ask but nvmm to her, she start smilingg but phewww Back killlers i think is the term, where the lady looks hot from back and sik off front,, well move on then

3rd supper mixed set,, 1 dad, 1 mom, 1 guy, 1 brother, 3 girlss, i go in the girl and say heyy i think you look cute i would like to get to know you,, she says she has bff i leave, alot of people staring, i sayy fuk u !

something happened here, i was walking around, 2 black guys say , heyy where the chicks at, im like i dont know i m looking,, How did you know i m looking for chicks, they say they can sense my purpose or some shit so i wing them, and went crazy showing them some direct asian game,, they didnt really approach 2 of them say HEYY BABBY when girls walk by the girls just walk by them , i tell them you have to stop them!!!, HEyyy hunniy heyy hottyy, there is big difference between direct game and pick up linesss, when i explain i say hey it hink your cute i want to get to know you,, is solid , not just a pick up linee people dont listen , so i dont bother explaining anymore,, i tell them i can go indirect too,, if they dont listen thats their problem

4thso i go nuts after i see competition and wingss, i try to stay solo, group of three will scare girlss
we see a solo set pass by hot Latina in skirt , i did a slid over there and , stopped her , I say i think your beutiful i d like to get to know you , she says she has bf

5thgroup of 4 black chicks walk by, the set the black players fail to stopp, 3 fatTTT arsss and one fine one with nice legss, i didnt stop them all, i stoped the one with fine legs, and says hey i think your cute. id like to get to know you, i shake her hand, hug her, she says she has bf i leave

6th2 set asian girl in shopping store, i go in say heyy i think your cute , i d like to get to know you,, she looks at me pauses for 10 seconds, and says sorry im takenn

7thfine 8 white girl brunet,, i say heyy i think your beutfiul i d like to get to know you , she says sorry i have bff, i say ooo shiit!!

8th fine hot asian mom, sitting at a chair, a whole familly, i sat right next to her, gonna say your beutiful, saw her too old , i say forget ti

9th white girl not that hot girl , i run after her said hey 2 times to make her slow down, she did not turn around , i say heyy i think your beutiful , she says thxx, i got to go, i say i d like to get to know you, she doesnt stop says, this is so fuking creepy and walks away, i yell at her , this is how i look for GFF fuk you

10th lady that works at shopp, i directly say i think your hot i want to get to know you, shes ays she has bf and smilesss

11th 2 set black girls, the 2 black guhys did not appproach them, so i say ok i m going in , so i run to the side and try to go from the front from another angle so i start running and slow down and got in front of them going in, but i found out they went in a shop , so i was like fuk i did that for nothinggg, i go in talk to the hot one, and say hey i think your beuftifll i d like to get to know you, she smiled , i shook her hand, the other black ladyy looks at me, she says she has a MANN , i saay o okk, i say nice meeting you, i put hands out to give her hug, she says no i say i understand

12thh, white girlls in hollister, i see one i go talk to her, indirect approach, what kind of clothes here, she answerss, i tell a storry, i m here at the mall blah blah blah,, later say hey your interesting i ll call you sometime, she says soorry she has bff, so i sayyy kk!! hug her leavee

13th , Laddy selling puppet toys, asian laddyy, i already talked to her before , but havnet seen her long time, i got her number, ask her how old she is , she says shes old enough to be my mom, i say o well forget itt..

14th FIne ass i dont know race laddyyy, in a skirt and tank top , heavy make up, i say heyy i think your beutiful i would like to get to know you, intro myself, got her numberrr 1 close 15 setss

15th 3 asian girlss, i approach them sayy i like you guys i dd like to get to know you guyss, talk to them for a while, walk with them for 10 seconds shake hands, hug, ask for target number, she says her firends thats my bf's sister or some shit, i say o okk got u and leavee

that was one hell of a day , went to mall alone 15th direct setsss

2 hours of solid day game

later i met up with girl that i approached previous day on datteee

went to asian shopping mall, wakled around int he rain, sat down under a temple rooff, kissed her on the lips and cheek , a 1 hour 3o min datee, make her touch my stomach, did my jui jutsu and martial arts techniqeus and transition to her boddyy, really nicely excuted, no ttime in end her mom was there, so i just went home

verry nice view first time i sat down in the bench under a asian temple in a rain, didnt know sitting outside would feel so niceee, i would do that by myself in the rain, but company of a girl was just nice, even tho i didnt think she is that hott for GFF but a date is funnn

i added some Shaolin kcik boxing skills to my game , slidding stopp group, butterfly stop groupp, flash stopp, ju jutsu is the art from going one submision to from body part to the next, very nice art in sexual escalation

another tehcnique i use it the pose, i open and get in a nice comfortable pose, not only do i get in comfortable spot, i make a sexi pose , girls love it , and talking to them in a sexi pose attracts them even more

i Showwed those 2 players that do pick up lines, some superior asian game'r direct game they say they have not seen crazy fuking Asian go like that before , im fuking loving this shit, ill keep getting better per dayy ,, taught them some things, too bad they did not do one single approach , exept telling the girls they are sexi, none the less that is better then doing nothing, but they are suplicating girls with too many compliment, but none the less they are getting laidd, i may wing them again next time, cus that was thrilling fun


thats covers the day, ,, work on congruencly opening, i dont know why reject so many times 1/15 a dayyy, shiittt

15 approaches 1 gorguous ss ladddyy, but shes not myy type i need yett, so i m gonna have to keep goinng

[akaisoras]

heyy i went to 4 difernt places and did a total of 8 sets, thats 2 per place

i was supposed to meet up with black player friends , but they end up not showing, so i gamed alone, my spirit goes low and goes up, i just force myself to do approachess alone

8 sets 1 i didnt really like so basically 8 sets all fuked
i wonder if direct game can really conquer the world, if SHARKK can get these girls that say they have bffss

1rst approach , after i bought pizza at the food court , i saw a 3 set, i ran over there approached her with i think you look cute, i d like to get to know you, she didnt speak english well and say i dont do that , i was like ok i got u

2nd 3 set, the lady on the right seemed ok from far, off, she compliemnts my style, i talked to her, decided i didnt want her

3rd veryy hot black girl mixxed with white i thinkk , sanely hot , i got in front of her, i say heyy i tink your beutiful, i d like to get to know you , she keeps walking, she smiles keeps walking after i greeted her

4th hot asian 8 at asian mall, i got in front of her , ran my opener i think you look cute i d like to get to know you , she says sorry not interested , i say damn

5th the girl glanced at me when i bought a drink, i go up says i think you look cute i d like to get to know you, she says sorry but i hav a bff

6th at shopping mall, i say asain girl with nice ass, she going 10 mile per hour, i walked to chase her, i sayy heyy someone she jumped up a little bit , i was lshittttt, maby i do have to go around to get in front, but i d have to run to do that,,, greeted her, she says she has bff i leavee

7th latinaa lady in the clothing store , i shook her hand she shows me her ring

8th set white girl in bath body shop, i approached her says i think your beutifull i d like to get to know you, she says sory has bfff

my opener is a statement instead of question now, i wonder if direct will ever work, if they girl did not approach invite youu

wonder if direct game can conquer the worllddd

need some help , would like some replies herer

damn difficult dayy, i mean even tho i dont care rejection no more,, but it seems even more imposible now, now that the young girls go to school summero ver, and only the old girls are still there ,, i have no fukn idea what to do latelly

another thing, i wonder if its good idea to chase the girl from the backk,, and go in front, or turn them around , sometimes scare them,, so i try stop them from front, or falow them to their location approach them in shopp, shiit i dont fuking no .....

my senses are prety sharp from so many approaching, but shit the ratio of direct is just damn low

Pastiche, i seee your from Houston, sayy i m doing these approaches at GALERIA SHOPIN GMALL, FIrst conlony, MEMORIAL, china townn,, these attract and date students from HSC will die in Galleria mall

i say pastiche, well go direct game together over here in houston, and you can show me waht you got

my goal is get all the girls at the galleria mall sooner or later, so galleria lets go sargee

[akaisoras]

a totatl of about 12 approaches since my last entrry

today i did about 6 approaches and got 2 numbersss

i was with my friend later , he is absolutely the worse wing ever

first he points at the girls and say go approach her, and then i say shhh

he keeps telling me i m telling you telling girls you like her never works

it works twice in a row, he still say it never work you got lucky, i tell him i dont wana waste time argueing with this idiot, i just wana get a hot gff,

when i was in a 2 set the girls were reacting great to my direct opener, I open cute girl with heyy i think your cute , i d like to get to know you, then the girl smiles, shy and turns around, stepped out a step, and then i hold my ground and lean back, and then she sees me leaning back she comes back in, and her friend on her cell fone hangs up tthe fone looks at me like why i m there, i say hey i think your friend over there is cute i d like to get to know her, now both of them are smilingg, then my friend jumps ......OMGGG this guy is a text book excuserr!!!! he comesi n and says excuse my friend to come in like this, then i looked at him and said fool, and then he kept excusing my approach to the girl, finally i was talking to him and the girls walked awayy and i said heyy waths up where u guys head off , she says o my bf is outsidee and they smile and walk outt, positivellyy , cus me and my friend turned out a showw


when a girl reacts positively to my opener and shit, its obvious they are feeling great, my friend tells me they are laughing at you , look at those girls laugh at your stupid ass approaching them, i would never approach them its just too weird for guys to do that , they will keep laughing at you, i was like............ lol text book excuserrrr

if it wasnt for the energy i got , being with friends , i would definately yell at him and kick him outtt shittt

well 2 numbers 6 approachesss, nice dayy

i call the numberse tonite,, none of the girls picked up , but i did get the right numbers, my game is as tight as a bladee, but one of the girl's a guy picked up , she told me she was going ot hookah bar tonitee, guy was like who is this, i say my name, he says i dont know you , i say well i m looking for this girl, and btw wats the song on your ring tone, he tells me , well just getting rid of this excuserr how you guys deal with shit when girl has guy answering fonee?????

[akaisoras]

OKK my game is getting smoother and smoother ,, hard core direct day game makes night club indirect look like pussies shitt,,

i cant even recall how many approaches i v done already mabby like 50 faces are just flashing byy,

with the day game iv achieved i m gonna rip the clubs apartt once it hit in

well its hard core over here bro, i have myselff thats it, no social circle , no partiess, just myselff, solid day game and its still not going too far, alot of girls have bffs alot of junkkk

well here is a few things i m working on

1. to make my game as tight so I have a bf does not show up, but it will , people cant stop it from coming, but they can get by it

2. Has to be a way to make a friend with the girl that rejects you , so 1. you can hang out with her and go for more girls 2. get her friends, 3. when her bf leaves you can jump in, thats what all the afcs do they wait till a girl in a social circle breaks up and goes it , fuking afcs, ... i just need to know how to build social circles with these girlss.. i need to form alot of social circles with these girls, i know there is a way to do it, but i dont know how atmm helpp!!!!!

3. get rid of jealous guys, few of these fuking numbers i finally got, some have idiot jealous guys that try to shit talk me on the fone,, really frustrating,, gaming in houston day game without nothing is seriously balls out hard core game at highest level, i welcome you guys to challenge this place's day game, get rid of the guyss on the spot of seeing them, and to actually make some friends if posiblee

4. imrpove on making my convos exciting and sick as posible , even when the girl doesnt respondd much shy quite, rejcted or anythingg

5 work out faster kino,,

6 work on quick rappottt

7 get by this new one, i dont give number to strangersss , weird responnse typical answer to say, well i d like to get to know you better, butt thats probably whats she is expectingg, someone help out how the hell to get enough rapport with the girl so she doesnt say something like thiss

a bit help here this place is hell

8 . feww ways from boy to girl type moving approachess in the mall , working out a few wayss without making things look too awkwardd, all my approaches are natural and smooth as posible , so no one notices anything weirdd

heyy pastichee, tell me your number bro, i ll hit you upp, a nice wing here is no where to be found, i v been soloin all these girlls

[akaisoras]

freeverse , this is just a few peices of my journalss, but i havent actually updated on my sucess and rejections for the past 3 days my opening is on natural reactions now, i m really loving it , but the ratio is just too low , heres where i always up date my direct journal Board Message

but i m start updating here too

[FreeVerse]

ummmmmm... I don't reccomend doing a journal. Yes I know I said post youre FR, but I was thinking more like post them one by one, cause honestly, no one will really read all that, well maybe a couple. but I will read this, since I see you're putting in effort.

[FreeVerse]

It's obvious that you're opener isn't working. Drop it. I've opened up girls mainly on something that relevant to the situation, but also interesting. Then i'll go do some cold reading, that works.

That opener can work though, I've told it to the girl and we went on an instant date and walked around the mall, but it mainly worked because she was interested in my look and my Warm Dominance.

If you wanna tell that too a girl, tell it to a girl whose allready interested in you.

But don't rely on it.

I wouldn't show youre jijutsu skills or whatever martial art skills you have, it comes across as you trying to impress her. Which isn't attractive.

If a girl rejects you, don't tell her fuck you. It may look funny, well actually you'll look funny and everybody will laugh at you in a bad way. Instead, just say "allright" and continue doing whatever it is you were doing. or just say "ok." and go and do something. Don't make a fool out of yourself, respect yourself.

I've heard a guy from Pick Up 101 that if you want to get approach anxiety out of the way, run at the girl, so i guess it might work, but I wouldn't go that direction, approach her and you wont get anxiety about it cause you allready approached her.

If she's walking to fast, forget about her, there are other girls.

Rapport, the best way to have rapport is to show that you understand her world. Look in Vin's Blog for credibility, it's title "How to Let a Girl Know You're For Real."

You'll go to the next level, if you slow down, don't worry about numbers and how many you approach. Take your time.

Also, have respect for yourself man, going out and approaching mad crazy makes you look desperate. Instead of thinking I'll approach this number of women, focus on the quality of your approaches.

[El Cuchillo]

I agree with Free Verse.

Akaisoras, It's obvious that you are trying hard. You're studying up, going out and practicing a lot, which is more than most guys are doing. You also have a lot of balls to make all those approaches. Good for you.

So what did you learn? Honestly, I only read about three of the above posts, but I didn't see any REFLECTION on your process as a whole.

For example, you kept getting "I have a bf." Immediately, right after you met them? Ever ask yourself, "why?"

I have a feeling that you're not "connecting" with the women. Be more situationally relevent when you approach.

why do you want her? This is what she is thinking: This dude just ran up three sets of stairs, interrupted me and my parents, and says he wants to get to know me? Why? I've never met him...why would he want to get to know me?

As opposed to, posting up somewhere, watching girls go by, you see one looking at you so you hold eye contact and smile. She still looks at you. She motions to her friend and they stop at the window right across from you. Then you make your move. You walk up to her and she is already warm because SHE sent YOU the vibe.

Or at least have a little something to say besides "you're cute, I want to get to know you"

I think reflecting on your process will help you a lot. Here are some basic questions:

For example, what type of relationship do you want? just sex, a gf, what? And why do you want that relationship?

what types of qualities do you look for in a woman?

what can you offer her?

Figure that stuff out and it will help you direct your efforts. That way you can connect to others in an engaging and organic way.

hope that helps

cuchillo

[Pastiche]

I'll chime in since this thread's getting attention and I've been working with you on the other forum. Good points guys.

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akaisoras, are you actually getting into conversations and hanging out with these women? There's an "unspoken rule" or concept in Direct Method called "Be it. Don't say it." It's great you're going out making all these approaches. You've busted lots of excuses. Now that you're over the fear, it's up to you HOW you wanna go about it. That means it's up to you to say"ILY" or not. You don't HAVE to say it to be 100% Direct. You can say "I like you" as a joke and be an insincere prick (as girls HATE that shit), and you can go without saying a word, be direct, and still make her blush and giggle.

Be It. Don't Say It.
As you get to know the "Be it. Don't say it" mindset, realize that you can say "I like you and I wanna get to know you" without words. Simply giving her your presence/ attention shows you like her (just as taking away your attention is a form of "punishment"), and then actually getting to know her (asking leading questions) shows that you wanna get to know her. Coz you're ALREADY DOING IT!

You can still stick with "ILY" if you really want to, as it communicates all the right things about you when done right (warm, dominant, romantic, unexpected, intriguing, etc.). Next time after the opener, really GET TO KNOW HER. By not getting to know her after saying it is already incongruent. Why are you saying it if you're not gonna do it? In that case, it's just a "line," it's insincere, and it's NOT "direct."

SitRel
Approach (make it pleasantly memorable, like a surprise gift), LEAD, escalate. Ask about herself. It's "Situationally Relevant" because you made it "SitRel." After an approach like "ILY," what's relevant? YOU and HER. So get personal. Ask about her and let her open you up. When the time is right (maybe on the second meet), you can continue without words to get her even more aroused (i.e. touching, hugging, caressing, eye gazing, smiles, moans, etc).

That's Juggler's 3 Phases as applied to the direct approach (Platonic, Personal, Sexual). Although when you're being direct, "platonic" flies right out the window. All the approach is meant to do is let her know you're attracted to her in whatever way you want. All that's left is getting personal. The rest takes care of itself (as you continue to lead and guide the flow) until you get her alone and kiss her, etc.

[akaisoras]

thxx el chuno and freeverse, altho these are direct approaches, those are the ones where you see a hot girl far away and you decide to go out of your way to approach her, itd be irelevant if you walk far distance and stand around her and start talking something situationall , or if the girl is moving and you stop her and say something situatational would be incongruent too, but by doing all these direct approaching when i actually see situational girls or any girls i can just talk and open, i havent been getting too many neat oppurtunities , such as parties, working, say a beutiful lady just apears by me somewhere , i d just speak my mind to her, but that doesnt usually happen , i dont direct open them, i would just talk to them easier since my sense got really sharp pushing myself to approach

welll dude, i push for 10 minutes per interaction saying the girl didnt go away already, cus they are seriusly fast in those malls, i stop them go opener, go for greeting hand shake, hug after rejectionn

i stay there to talk to her after my opener i rep out 3-5 minutes push of stories and interaction per set,

and if they actually did accept my opener, i m there to get to know her then ask the numberss, i even try to get to know her , relate stories etc , after being rejected pushed out 2 minutes ,, say she didnt already run awayy,

,, when the opening is actually situational relevant it is really a freebie, from doing all those moving target direct approaches it actually sharpened my senses , so when the easier sets appear when i see they just wana talk i dont even direct open i just talk and i get their number even easier i would compliment on her actions,

el cuchin, and freeverse, where you guys find some hott ladies that sit aroundd, i m gonna try borderss, el cuchin where do you get your supply i m wonderingg

i cant stop the i have a bf from coming in these scenarios even with laid back friendly body languange, but i know there are people that can transition by i have a bf, or even befriending the girls after rejection to build social circless if i could befriend these 45 girls that rejected me and get their numbers there is alot of magic that can happen , i would end up having 45 hot girls that are friends

lately i v even got jealous guys trying to talk crap to me on the fone , how do you guys deal with this , cus i know every lady has jealous guys, even the ugly ones '

haha she doesnt even know i do jui jutsu or martial art,, its just having some jui justsu makes escalation really fast, jui justu is going from one body sumbmsionn to the next on the ground, so i naturally get in to a sexuall postition with her on a date, without her noticingg, it helped alot and was prety fun

and damn pastiche i didnt know you had an acount on this forumm your everywhere

[El Cuchillo]

Originally Posted by akaisoras

thxx el chuno and freeverse, altho these are direct approaches, those are the ones where you see a hot girl far away and you decide to go out of your way to approach her, itd be irelevant if you walk far distance and stand around her and start talking something situationall , or if the girl is moving and you stop her and say something situatational would be incongruent too,

Akaisoris, I totally disagree.

Being situationally relevant is in no way easier or a freebie. It is natural! It is just more organic. It gives you and her a chance to decide if the interaction will go further. I think you'll get far more compliance this way.

What is incongruent and irrelevant, is approaching from afar, opening, and then having nothing to back it up, and get denied. I know that in Pickup 101 they advocate running down the street after a girl. God knows I've done it. But these are guys who can switch it up immediately and get her into a conversation.

If you're a hot guy, who can instantly turn on the charm and "wow" a group of people, then by all means do the random direct approaches. But I'm not sure if that is you. You seem to be working on a lot of preliminary things like conversation skills, approaching, and building repour. Maybe the "I like you, can I get to know you" approach isn't going to work for you right now. Save it for later.

Your past approaches will help you overcome fear and anxiety, although I don't know if it will help you sharpen your conversational skills.

Originally Posted by akaisoras

lately i v even got jealous guys trying to talk crap to me on the fone , how do you guys deal with this , cus i know every lady has jealous guys, even the ugly ones '

Do you think that having jealous guys talk crap is normal? Maybe you're uncalibrated in your approach. Maybe your approach is weird and scares them. I don't know. I approach girls with their boyfriends and never get hassled. The most I ever get is the boyfriend saying, "someone needs to talk to you" while moving her away.

As far as where do I go? Day game mostly. Yeah, the bookstore or coffee shop. Outdoor malls are great too. Anywhere really. make everywhere THE place to be.

cuchillo

[El Cuchillo]

A,

I hope I'm not being too harsh on you in my recent responses to your posts. I'm on the journey too, and we're all learning together.

I just know that for myself, I like direct criticism even if it is harsh.

It's the only way to improve in my opinion.

cuchillo