FR: Skills Improving

[rarebreed]

Well, it's been a while since I've been here. I haven't been writing FR's for a while now. I have been doing some soul searching. I won't talk about my soul searching here, but I will put it in the "inner game" sub-category.

I went out with my Wingman Wasabi. The guy is new to the stuff. Well, not so much. He's doing the Stylelife Challenge, which is cool because it shows he wants to be bad ass at this. I gotta give the guy props because he's learning fast and he understands that there is always room for improvement.

I see a two set. One is a blonde, a 9, and the other is a brunnette, an 8. The set opens well and I get the girls talking and asking me questions, but I still hadn't got them laughing. My homie comes in a bit prematurely, I think, since I haven't had time to break down their defensive barriers, which can only be done by getting them to laugh. I introduce him to the girls, so as not to be rude, but right after the hot 9 receives and sends a text message while the brunette is talking to her. The girls, at this point, are not facing us anymore.

I talk to my wingman in front of them while they chit chat, without being phased, and the brunette notices my shirt. She touches my shirt and says she likes what it has to say. It basically has some kid pouring kool-aid on the ground while his three friends watch and at the bottom of the shirt it says, "This is for my homies". The kool-aid is the only color my shirt has, considering it's white and the kids are outlined in black. I could have led the conversation somewhere, but my mind started to build EXCUSES and I ended up ejecting. I made sure I excused myself before I left. I think it's socially proper after meeting two woman.

My wingman, Wasabi, and I end up going to a table. Wasabi spots a two set and opens them up. He talks to them for a minute or two and comes back to the table. Thinking the set was no good afterwards, he ends up getting one of the girls to come to our table. She's an eight, BTW. He told her that she and her friend should join us. She declined because she said since she was a woman that we should sit at their table. I made a smart ass comment and said,"Well, you're already here. All that's left is your friend or do I have to rent a UHAUL to get her over here.". She smiled and said, "Well, we're still ladies, so you should come to our table.". I told her the feminist movement was over and that we all are equal, but in the end we ended up at their table, which was right across from ours. It turns out we all ended up talking for twenty minutes. We moved to another table and spent another twenty minutes with them. Funny enough, while we were talking about Hookah, they ended up number closing us and they gave us their myspace. Yes, they are of legal age. Actually, their both 23 and they are both 8's in my book. One of them is an actress and the other doesn't know what she wants to do with her life, but she's graduating in three or four months or whenever this semester is over.

Before Wasabi and I left these two other dudes came by. The girls told Wasabi and I about them, but as soon as we figured out they were walking deuches, we split. Wasabi was driving and he needed to wake up early in the morning anyways. That may have been an EXCUSE to leave, but they invited us out on Tuesday and Friday. I may make it Friday, but definately not Tuesday.

All I know is that I got a date this Sunday with a sexy black Nigerian woman. I got jungle fever.

I hear eating large amounts of chocolate is equivalent to the feeling of being in love. Bullshit or not? (I think this sounds like a good opener. hmmm

[diablo]

nice role reversal shit ....
getting them to get YOUR number... perfect....
the feminist movement IS over....
and thank god it happened... girls feel more INDEPENDENT... so now they have the balls to ask us for our numbers...
greatstuff...

and yea.... that's a great fucking opener... i'm going to use it.

[rarebreed]

Originally Posted by diablo

nice role reversal shit ....
getting them to get YOUR number... perfect....
the feminist movement IS over....
and thank god it happened... girls feel more INDEPENDENT... so now they have the balls to ask us for our numbers...
greatstuff...

and yea.... that's a great fucking opener... i'm going to use it.

Good to hear from ya, bro. It's been a while and it's always refreshing to hear from someone familiar.

Yeah, man. In the middle of conversation one of the girls asked us for our number. My boy Wasabi gave her his number and she called him back so he could save her number. We all agreed to meet on Tuesday at a Hookah Bar and Friday at some western country club. I might not make it Tuesday due to working late shift at my job.

[Pastiche]

So this is what I missed out on? Sounds like it was a lot of fun. Sorry I was way up in the Woodlands hanging out with a my bi friend and her friends. Our waitress happened to be a beautiful girl a recognized from high school. My bi friend wanted to meet her so we played around with that. Fun shit.

Later some of us went downtown to a spot which happens to have drum circles and a whole lotta stoners on Wednesdays. If/ When you go, expect for peeps to share and MAKE you get high. A black chick hit on me in front of her man. The whole time I was cool with both of them and made'em laugh so it's like I could tell he was bothered by her behavior around me but there was no way he was gonna punch me. HAHAHA! She ended up taking my number. Maybe I'll visit her at work up in the Northside.

At least we all had a good night in our respective ways. I gotta make time for you guys. It's been a while and I feel like a douche for being flaky.

[rarebreed]

Originally Posted by Pastiche

So this is what I missed out on? Sounds like it was a lot of fun. Sorry I was way up in the Woodlands hanging out with a my bi friend and her friends. Our waitress happened to be a beautiful girl a recognized from high school. My bi friend wanted to meet her so we played around with that. Fun shit.

Later some of us went downtown to a spot which happens to have drum circles and a whole lotta stoners on Wednesdays. If/ When you go, expect for peeps to share and MAKE you get high. A black chick hit on me in front of her man. The whole time I was cool with both of them and made'em laugh so it's like I could tell he was bothered by her behavior around me but there was no way he was gonna punch me. HAHAHA! She ended up taking my number. Maybe I'll visit her at work up in the Northside.

At least we all had a good night in our respective ways. I gotta make time for you guys. It's been a while and I feel like a douche for being flaky.

I read your FR with the Asthma girl. Hope everything is okay with her. Just your luck, huh?

BTW, you are a douche. Woman use you once and throw you away.

Wait. I don't see anything wrong with that.

[Pastiche]

Originally Posted by rarebreed

I read your FR with the Asthma girl. Hope everything is okay with her. Just your luck, huh?

I'm thinkin' she probably feels guilty coz she fooled around with me after I think a 1 or 2 relationship with another guy.

BTW, you are a douche. Woman use you once and throw you away.

Wait. I don't see anything wrong with that.

Nice "reframe." LOL

[rarebreed]

Originally Posted by Pastiche

I'm thinkin' she probably feels guilty coz she fooled around with me after I think a 1 or 2 relationship with another guy.

Nice "reframe." LOL

I would like to add my two cents on your situation and then I will give a full detail of what I did on this field report.

I think you are right about her feeling guilty. Let's back track your situation with Asthma girl. First, you built arousal inside her body. Next, you opened up the filters of prizeability and comfort with her, or else she wouldn't have done what she had done with you. The only thing that may have caused her buyer's remorse was either a lack of rapport, lack of qualifying her or maybe both.

What did you find out about her that seperated her from most other girls? What qualities did you like about her? What commonalities did the two of you share?

I don't want to seem like I'm comparing myself with you, even though I am guilty of that in the past, but I want to back track to the things I did with these girls Wasabi and I met.

Okay, first of all it was Wasabi who opened the girls. He got one of the girls to our table and then she insisted on us sitting at their table. In all honesty, my conversational skills after the initial approach are much better than his, but he is showing signs of improvement. A whole lot. Long story short, I kept the conversation fresh by using multiple threads, cutting threads and humor. I would say five minutes after talking to them I ended up qualifying both girls.

The girl Wasabi was sitting next to has a very well developed sense of humor because she would laugh when I would tease her. I told her that she has a good sense of humor because most girls would cry after I tease them. I also told her she was confident. She then qualified herself, hitting the compliancy trigger Qualifying, by saying she was an actress. I then rewarded her, via Juggler, by saying, "Wow! A woman with a good sense of humor and she's talented. Where have you been all my life, but I need someone who can cook.". She laughed and said, "I can cook.". Wasabi was watching this all along. Hehe. I basically hit the compliancy trigger Qualifying and Committment and Consistency. I also hit the compliancy trigger Scarcity and I gave her the self image of being someone with a good sense of humor who's confident and talented. The rest of the night as I used some push-pull and some other playful jokes on her and she would laugh rather than be offended. Why? Because I shaped her actions and behaviors.

The other girl I noticed was kind of quiet, but she would put her two cents in convo at times. I found out that she was going to school for law and that she had one more semester. I qualified her as someone who is goal oriented. I then rewarded her by saying, "I really like meeting people who are goal oriented. I find them to be very motivating so that I could reach my goals.". Basically, I qualified her and then I raised her value by saying the last sentence. Then, I gave her a self image she didn't want. I called her a churchgirl because she was very quiet. This hit the compliancy trigger making woman qualify because after I gave her the self image of a church girl she said,"I'm not a church girl. I went to a catholic school, but I like to party.". She started to seek approval. This also built a lot of arousal. I also hit the compliancy trigger Authority in both girls.

The girls were just spitting tons of IOI's at this point. They were doing it before, of course, but at this point I knew Wasabi and I had them hooked. I'm sure we could have pulled them back to his crib, but this was a good sign of progress. We did move to another table of our choice.

We all ended up talking for 40 - 60 minutes and having tons of fun. Funny enough one of the girls was a Libra like me and the other was a Virgo, like Wasabi. They were the ones finding commonalities with us all on their own. We had other things in common, but I won't go into much detail about that.

Wasabi and I had made plans to meet these girls on Tuesday for hookah, but the other girl ended up having a bad day, so we cancelled. No worries, though. Wasabi ended up hooking up with one of the girls yesterday and she invited us for a Bar-B-Que this Saturday. That means I take the other girl because he was the one who opened the set. He chooses which girl he wants.

This is only the beginning, Pastiche. Quit being a douche and jump into action with us.