Sedona Method

[rooster]

Hey guys so I just started using something that's been like the biggest help to my inner game.

It's called the Sedona Method. Basically all fluff and bullshit aside it's letting go of things and detaching from everything. Now I've been in the community awhile and this has been hammered into me, but I never really understood it until a friend of mine introduced me into some of the Sedona Method stuff.

Looking back I see how all the good pua's have the trait of just being able to take things as they are, let go of things and detach, detach from needing approval from anyone except yourself, detach from rejection, etc.

So far it's pretty much allowed me to do whatever I want and not care what people think about me and to let go of needing things. Letting go of needing and wanting things has actually made them come into my life, like my first threesome for example.

Thoughts anyone?.......


Rooster

[FreeVerse]

That's my wing!

When you're not being needy, you're not seeking for approval, you become independent.

When I go out, I am outcome oriented, when it comes to reflecting back on what i've done, i'm not outcome oriented with the women. Before I go out, I think to myself "what is it going to take or do for me to be able to look back on this night, and feel good about myself." Then, when i'm out, I do way better.

[Vin DiCarlo]

The sedona method is tight... definitely effective

[Mr. Incredible]

Rooster, thank you for posting that. This will be helpful to me.

[Mr. Incredible]

I have used the Sedona Method a few times now, working on my general shyness of dealing with people and also my soft-drink cravings.

Results are encouraging. I have become a generally more social person, especially when dealing with strangers. I also seem to be more cheerful. I don't know why; I think that this may be my natural character. My mother always said I was cheerful and happy all the time as a kid. I'd love to be that way again. I think the Method may be getting rid of social programming that suppresses my natural self.

The results of working on my coca-cola habit are amazing: in one five-minute session, the cravings were virtually eliminated. I used to drink it all the time; now I feel that I have a choice over whether or not to drink the stuff, and I generally don't (1 can in two days). I used to drink half a dozen cans or more PER DAY, so this is a huge leap forward. I am now drinking water or green tea instead. I'm stoked. I have struggled with this for years, and suddenly, it's just gone away.

I am going to make using the method a daily habit, just before I go to sleep I'll release some issue that I've had. You can download the complete first CD of their audio course from Sedona Method (official site) The Secret self-help program; self-improvement technique, which covers the basics of the Method (and that's what I am using).

[ody]

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You could do both, plus some Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - they're all simple enough and somewhat related

Originally Posted by rooster

Looking back I see how all the good pua's have the trait of just being able to take things as they are, let go of things and detach, detach from needing approval from anyone except yourself, detach from rejection, etc.

Rooster

Not needing approval? the 2 naturals I've known were the exact opposite, shouting, making lewd gestures, swearing a blue streak whenever they didn't get their way, sometimes having to get drunk to get "on".

[yeayea]

cool! i have been considering the sedona method but did not know if it was legit - i will definitely try it now!

[Existentialist]

I've been using the Sedona Method for about a year now. I've never thought of using it specifically for Inner Game though. I'll have to try this out.

[jontyc]

Originally Posted by rooster

Hey guys so I just started using something that's been like the biggest help to my inner game.

It's called the Sedona Method. Basically all fluff and bullshit aside it's letting go of things and detaching from everything. Now I've been in the community awhile and this has been hammered into me, but I never really understood it until a friend of mine introduced me into some of the Sedona Method stuff.

Looking back I see how all the good pua's have the trait of just being able to take things as they are, let go of things and detach, detach from needing approval from anyone except yourself, detach from rejection, etc.

So far it's pretty much allowed me to do whatever I want and not care what people think about me and to let go of needing things. Letting go of needing and wanting things has actually made them come into my life, like my first threesome for example.

Thoughts anyone?.......


Rooster

Great stuff.

Yeah this reminds me of a method which *I think* is exactly the same ?

Anyway it's called The effort free Life system and is sold by a company called Lifetools in the UK.

I have spent at least £1000 on introduction/dating agencies, at LEAST £1000 on personal improvement doodads and tape/books. And god knows how much on 'going out' to pubs and clubs, an environment I am extremely uncomfortable in: I have difficulty concentrating in nightclubs without earplugs for example.

So I tried this Effort Free System - It was £700 odd FOR THE "PLATINUM" version with all the bonus material: teleconference support etc.

Incredibly simple few step thought technique on seeing the futility of to put it crudely, giving a damn/worrying about stuff or not accepting the way things are.

Of Course, it didn't work...

Why?...


Because I don't 'work' - I've come to the realisation that at 36 now, my utter non-results with women are not an external thing or somerthing I can do by 'doing' outside type stuff, or bullshit, or routines, systems, 'methods' and all that stuff. It's MYSELF!

SIDEBAR:
(I'm now a member of mysinglefriend.com - according to her site and book, "being single Rocks!". No it doesn't rock, it F***ing stinks man!...)

It is something *internal*, and I'm not entirely sure what it is, but as a Briggs-Myers INTJ (which might provide some explanation), It is all inner game and, to a lesser extent I'm sure, mild body dysmorphia. What I do realise about myself is I find intimacy a bit scary.

I mean I'm all for these dating guru wrinkles and tips and hints, but applying it to someone like me quickly ears off, because the thing is I want to be myself and not overlay my persona with a 'system' or technique'

BECAUSE I WILL SABOTAGE IT AS YOU KNOW DEEP DOWN THAT YOU'RE BEING "FAKE",

do you see where I'm coming from?

I'd love all this dating success help industry and I think what they do for chumps like us is marvellous, bloody super, yet my penultimate, gnawing fear is I'll never be successful with women, and even if I buy all of the systems sold by all of the dating gurus out there, I'll be thier toughest case yet to solve and I'll never figure it out and get left on the damn shelf and die a lonely old perennially single man.