What held me back????

[maverick]

Well today i was coming back from my uni and was walking on the sidewalk, holding a 6 pack and some other stuff when this asian chic looks at me and smiles(not a big open mouth smile but was neither a sly smile) and i was kind of tired and also holding stuff in one hand and holding a smoke in another but nothing striked my mind so we both just walked off.

I came back home and realised i missed an opportunity, she was atleast a 7.5 - 8. What do you guys think held me back from approaching her

P.s My mind blacked out, i didnt knew what to say. Any suggestion so this doesnt happen in future. Cheers

[Inastate]

Maybe my advice won't stick with other guys here, but to be honest, I wouldn't sweat it Mav. Life's got to be a balance, and if you're gonna feel like a failure everytime you don't approach a HB that you make eye contact with you're gonna wear yourself down.

What held you back, is that your internal beliefs are still pretty fucked up. That takes time. You can try and beat that shit into shape by constantly pushing yourself to break your comfort zone but to be honest, I don't know if that's the best approach for long term development. I'm still not sold that regular failures are the best way to fix limiting beliefs.

Over time, as your beliefs and behaviours both change, you will find yourself doing things that previously weren't part of your reality. Interestingly they won't seem like a big deal, because you'll be to busy kicking yourself over why you didn't approach the HB11 surrounded by Lebonese Mafia members that you made eye contact with.

But like I said...maybe other guys will see it differently.

Inastate

[FreeVerse]

It's not built in your mind to approach her, it's like you were stuck in auto pilot and went a long and you wanted to approach her, you probably were use to not approaching that you didn't. Yeah, that sounded like a good window of opportunity but there are so much out there that you can seize.

When I say, built, I don't mean like you're a robot and once you see a window you just go automatically, we do make decisions and you can decided whether you want to approach her or not.

[maverick]

Inastate, you are right. My internal beliefs are fucked up and i dont wanna make an excuse but yes and i am working on it and it will take some time for sure.

You are right, I just cant sweat it out on every girl that makes eye contact but its just that it was a very good opportunity and not only did she make an eye contact and smiled I also felt like she stopped for like a second or two and maybe she wanted to talk or maybe she wanted me to start it

Lebanese Mafia thing cracks me up but its so true since we both are from AUS and we know how things are with those people but man lebanese chics are so fuckin hot. Thanks for replying btw..appreciate it.

Freeverse, you are right. Its like my heart says go talk to her and my mind is like blanked out and in the end mind wins...sure not a good idea though.

[bossyboots]

If right this moment, a ridiculously hot girl walked by you, what would you say to her?

If you can't answer this without thinking then you run the risk of missing opportunities.

Have a few stock things to say in these situations.

Could be as simple as "Hi" or "Hey, I just saw you walking by and thought you looked really cute so I wanted to meet you"

Doesn't have to be anything elaborate.