How To Deal With Her Shit Tests??

[brandon]

HEy Dude.If you're going to successfully deal with tests from
women, you first need to "get it".
To say it differently, you need to learn how to
RECOGNIZE tests quickly... and know when they're
happening.I hope all of u aggree with me.So.....

I have failed millions of tests or shit test already and why do they have to do that all the time and cintinue to do that for the rest of their life?

What's the best way to know when you're being tested?

Then what the best way to respond to their test?

Examples :

If she tries to cancel plans at the last minute, you'll
say "Oh, no problem". I failed that test i know .What should i have said?

If she complains about something, you'll say "I'm sorry,
let me fix it".I failed that test i know .What should i have said?

Etcetera.........


Plz help.

[diablo]

Originally Posted by brandon

HEy Dude.If you're going to successfully deal with tests from
women, you first need to "get it".
To say it differently, you need to learn how to
RECOGNIZE tests quickly... and know when they're
happening.I hope all of u aggree with me.So.....

I have failed millions of tests or shit test already and why do they have to do that all the time and cintinue to do that for the rest of their life?

What's the best way to know when you're being tested?

Then what the best way to respond to their test?

Examples :

If she tries to cancel plans at the last minute, you'll
say "Oh, no problem". I failed that test i know .What should i have said?

If she complains about something, you'll say "I'm sorry,
let me fix it".I failed that test i know .What should i have said?

Etcetera.........


Plz help.

they do the shit tests to weed out the congruent guys from the incongruent guys.
they don't know that's why they do it.

YOU SHOULD ENJOY A SHIT TEST IF YOU GET IT.

because it means she might be interested.

BRANDON: adopt this attitude, "i'm going to have fun NO MATTER WHAT, the world is my playground."

if she tries to cancel plans, say "i'm more fun"
or just say, "ok"

if she complains about something...
DEPENDS ON WHAT SHE'S COMPLAINING ABOUT

bestway to know you're being tested...
you'll FEEL it.
you'll know she's testing your congruity to see if she can make you "crack"

[Tal]

Originally Posted by brandon

HEy Dude.If you're going to successfully deal with tests from
women, you first need to "get it".
To say it differently, you need to learn how to
RECOGNIZE tests quickly... and know when they're
happening.I hope all of u aggree with me.So.....

I have failed millions of tests or shit test already and why do they have to do that all the time and cintinue to do that for the rest of their life?

What's the best way to know when you're being tested?

Then what the best way to respond to their test?

Examples :

If she tries to cancel plans at the last minute, you'll
say "Oh, no problem". I failed that test i know .What should i have said?

If she complains about something, you'll say "I'm sorry,
let me fix it".I failed that test i know .What should i have said?

Etcetera.........


Plz help.

Ok, just to clarify, not everything a woman does is a "shit test". Some of this is basic socialization. If she cancels and has a legitimate reason, no biggie, just reschedule. If she keeps doing it then don't tolerate it, just move on. I will give you advice that I give all of my friends. This applies to romantic relationships as well as friendships: People will treat you the way you let them. It is YOUR responsibility to decide how people are going to treat you.

[yeayea]

basically overcoming shit tests is about "warm dominance"

warm dominance is the foundation of the dicarlo method

basically it means that no matter what she does you are unaffected - no matter what

hard to give concrete examples but it is more of a way of thinking than a technique and if you are looking for stock responses, you are missing the point

check out this post:
http://www.vindicarlo.com/forums/inn...dominance.html

also:
http://www.vindicarlo.com/forums/mai...dominance.html

also search for brians posts and read all of them - the dude embodies warm dominance

also this is a good post but not from dicarlo - it talks about warm alpha and is a similar concept
Oracle of Sweden - Warm_alpha

[Hengman]

Shit tests are IOIs.

Treat them like IOIs. Amplify shit tests with push-pulls.

[Domino]

I heard ignoring them works good.

[Hengman]

Ignoring them is the BEST way of beating them.

[Domino]

Originally Posted by Hengman

Ignoring them is the BEST way of beating them.

But sometimes the girl will sneak them into the convo and you accidently bite.

[ice1]

Rick.H has a good line for this say 'ah,thats so sweet,she has an opinion''

[MrRabbit]

one thing that will happen over time is that you will get shit tested so much that you will learn it is no big deal, just like a dominant guy would think.
I get a kick out of it when i get shit tested, because this little girl is trying to test me, when mentally i am thinking 'what the hell can she do? little twirp!' (and i am only 5'7" and regularly get shit tested by 5'9" -5'11" girls, i love the tall ones"), it is even the more fun to tease these girls. guys will watch in amazement like your about to get your face knocked off by this girl, then she suddenly loves you to death, and the guys have no idea why you were able to get away with it. its because they are being men with pussies, and they can't do it because it wouldn't be congruent.
I tease back with her on shit tests, i am unaffected, because i know why she is doing it. i am a little bit extroverted,but i am fun when i do it, so beware. i playfully pushed a girl on the shoulder once and said ' get outta here you dork', and my hand was kind of looking gay when i did it. So she said ' i know you didn't just push me like a gay dude?', and i said in a gay voice (as i was doing it again, and said "yeah, and if my boyfriend was here he'd do it to....beeooocchhh!). Balsy indeed, but she lit up with laughter and gave me a hug in front of her friends and told them she loved me to death. I am not sure what "theory" is going on behind the scenes, but I do know i was unaffected, and had fun with it, and the coin turned my way. she saw right away , that i was going to be me, no matter what she does, and she liked it i guess??

[Zudnic]

I actually like the 21 year old I've dated a few times. Problem she is a single Mother and don't like dating them. Made her tests even easier to deal with kid dynamic makes Me really want to avoid becoming the boyfriend. On all I ignore staying confident and cocky guy who got the date in the first place and even back off/semi move on. 9 times out of 10, they will call within a week. Diablo made the best point they do it because they probably like You.