A solution to improve your emotions and energy and requesting some feedback

[micams]

Hi.
I think this post will be of value to anyone starting really Brent's or any natural method(aka false debutant i.e. people who have a clear picture of how to be but do not know exactly how to go there, besides doing affirmations and visualizations that although correct do not explain exactly what to do and how to gauge the progress all along).
My problem with Brent's/natural method and I'm sure with almost all people at the beginning of this journey is exactly and practically how to go about it.
I've done affirmations and visualizations for 30 minutes each day, studied and practiced silence and presence, done some meditation and trance work and although I noticed a bettering of my mindset on an INTELLECUAL level, it didn't really change my emotions and didn't teach me which actions to take and how to go about it. I practiced indifference which is important and necessary to have but after some time had passed and although I'm starting to have girls asking me for directions, I didn't sense any real attraction coming from them. And although one could say to me to just practice raw patience and your time will come and although that is correct advice, it doesn't help to optimize my course of actions to improve steadily my situation.
So the solution I found is to study the law of attraction and how it works.
After having seen "the Secret" and "What the Bleep do we know" and having read the legitimate criticisms about it (i.e. pseudo science taken out of context, no real explanation about the workings of the Law of Attraction and its use in daily life besides just choose from the catalog of the universe;-) i.e. childish and over-simplified advice), I came across "Ask and It shall be given" by Hicks.
And I can tell you, if you are approximately in my shoes (i.e. having constant neutral or slightly positive state, becoming indifferent about outcomes and girls) but seeing no noticeable attraction from girls, this book is gold.
It explains with a spiritual outlook exactly how the LOA works, how to improve step by step our emotions, vibrations and energy, why it's vital to constantly monitor our own emotions and how to go about improving them step by step using constantly relieving thoughts, and how one can really and PRACTICALLY manifest his pure desires (not the egoic harmful ones). It also explains how the emotional guidance system works and how to use it for our own benefit.
It explains, from a spiritual view point, what is desire, what is a pure desire and how to go about fulfilling it without being in opposition with the spiritual path (something that Eckhart Tolle doesn't explain so well given he himself seems not so interested (or doesn't exactly know) how to go about fulfilling his own desires and how to choose noble ones and ignore not noble ones. He has the same problem that many spiritual teachers have in that they think that being on the spiritual path means dropping desires, dropping the majority of their actions and that inner peace and inactivity is the supreme goal and the high end of human experience. He says we should be joyful and blissful but doesn’t give any daily instruction other than practice silence and presence, endure some suffering(which I believe is not such a good advice). So all his teachings are clearly incomplete for someone wanting to attain happiness and achieve some goals. He says that once you’ll be completely enlightened that your desires will dissipate and your joy will be constant but totally enlightened individuals are a tiny proportion of humanity, in fact some say that there are no more than 12 totally enlightened people on this planet. So the realistic and perfectly desirable goal is to achieve partial enlightenment ant to get rid of addictions, unhealthy desires, obsessions, unhealthy attachment to materialistic objects, etc. And that is a much better place to be than a lot of human beings are in right now.

So I'd love some feedback about this and encourage you all to read the book.
Thanks to all,
Michael.

PS: Hoping and going for a spiritual path is a desire in itself.

[Eliezer Sobel]

One of the most important epiphanies I had over the course of more than 30 years as a spiritual seeker was hearing it said once, that unlike the Law of Attraction and the Secret and similar ideas, spiritual life is not about "getting what you want," but rather, cultivating the ability to "want what you get." Or what you've got. When I can truly choose what I have, then the present moment no longer needs to be different in order for me to be happy. In other words, as Alan Watts said, "This is it!" Going after what I want and attracting it into my life keeps me locked into the future. Wanting what I've got leaves me in the present moment with life exactly as it is.

My two cents, anyway.

Eliezer Sobel, author of
The 99th Monkey:
A Spiritual Journalist's Misadventures with
Gurus, Messiahs, Sex, Psychedelics and
Other Consciousness-Raising Adventures