Find what drives you

[Daniel_B]

Almost 2 years ago, my determination to establish myself as one of the best and youngest PUA (AKA guys who get girls and do nothing else) led me to talk to countless girls, be embarrased countless times and go into frustration more than once. Now if you're thinking that going almost 1 year into it led me to where I am today, or even taught me what I know today - you would be totally wrong. The biggest thing I thank PU for is that first experience it gave me of Going after what I wanted. That's what counts, I realized later. It gave me that realization that if I went after what I wanted, I would reach it.

Just for the note, I want to clarify the following: Pick up is not what I wanted. It's what I thought I wanted. It's that sense of fulfillment I thought it would give me. Months later, I actually became disgusted with it. Disgusted. Why? I realized the fulfillment was momentary and that I was taking from people rather than giving.

Luckily for me, it didn't take me too long to realize Pick Up is not what I wanted and that all in all is a horrible thing. Especially, because at that time, mimmicks, routines and memorized lines were the trend to go. So I decided to get rid of that and go on my own. Whatever thing I wanted to do, I would do. Whatever I wanted to say, I would say. What ever emotion I wanted to feel, I would manage to feel. These three simple things were actually written down on my wall (a paper on my wall) and they reminded me everyday of what I was to do. This led me to realize how speaking your mind gets you further than memorized lines. It allowed me to realize that if I changed my phisicality and focus then my emotions would also change.
I learned that most people let their emotions dictate them, rather than deliberately changing their physicality and therefore emotions. I learned that meeting girls or getting in shape or getting good grades is not a matter of skills that much, but rather a matter of will. In short, I learned a lot of shit.

Though, the number one thing that I found is the following. There was something driving me in some ocassions, and in others, there wasn't. In other words, sometimes I would naturally feel DRAWN to somehting and very determinded to make it happen. Other times I did not. One day... BOOM! I had it! There was a driving force the entire time, I just wasn't aware of it.

You know what's the beauty of it? I became aware of things. What was driving me to work so hard to improve my skills and physicology was my love for people. What drives me to be successful at school is the love for my family (the ones in Peru, I owe it to them). What drives me to carry this forum (the forum I run, not Vin's lol) now and take things to a next level is my great friend Ian. I promised him and I carry him in my thoughts. He is a driving force in my life as well. You guys are a driving force in my life too. I do this for you.

I don't intend to exaggerate or anything, but that's me. That's what drives me, that's the truth and I'm sharing it with you. I invite you to find what drives you, find it, shape it, embrace it. Whatever drives you makes a difference in your life and the life of others as well. Once you become aware of what drives you, you will sooon become more productive, more efficient and better at things you do.

Much love to all of you.