the attraction code-question

[ice1]

I read the book and thought it was great vin. It says though at the end about intetions also it said about focus. In pickup what should your intention and focus be?

[chileno]

When I focus in my true intention when a interact with a woman, its all you need, the problem is really mantein that focus no matter what hapen.

The focus is the true: I like this girl, because he is sexi and I want to fuck her, and of course I know that we need to talk about other things but, its there and is true, I want sex with her and thats all I think..............

[rarebreed]

I will put my two cents on this post. I think there are many unconscious factors that ruin a man's intent.

Many guys when meeting woman have different intentions. Some men when meeting a woman have the intentions of meeting woman solely for sex. Other guys have the intention of meeting woman for a long term relationship. Other guys just have the intention of meeting woman to just be their friends. I don't think any of these intentions are wrong, but there is a problem in certain cases when our intentions change or don't meet her intentions.

In my experience, when meeting a woman or a group of woman sometimes intentions change between a man or a woman. Let me explain this further so it makes sense.

I met a very attractive asian woman one time in a parking lot at a gym. Her and I hit it off and I ended up venue changing her to a near by smoothie factory for a smoothie. We ended up speaking for about an hour. I thought everything was going well and I knew I was going to see her again. My intentions with this woman was not just sex, but to HOPEFULLY take it further than that. When I walked her to her car and asked for the number and made arrangements for a day two she didn't give it up. I was totally confused. I thought her and I were having a great time, but she declined to give me her number. "Why?", I thought to myself.

After much thinking and experimenting I found the answer. I didn't see her again at the gym for two weeks and we ended up hanging out again. I still had the intention of making it more than just sex with her, even though we still hadn't done it, but that's where I had made the mistake. The third time we hung out she told me she was married, but I didn't see a ring on her finger and I busted her on that. Then she told me she was engaged. I smelled a lot of bullshit coming out of her mouth.

To make a long story short, my intentions didn't meet her intentions and nothing happened between the two of us. From the time I met her all she wanted was for me to put her on cloud nine with my man piece, but I wanted her to be my girlfriend. I assume this is why many "gurus" say to have sex with a woman and then if you choose get into a relationship. They also say not to verbalize your attraction for her, even though some rules can be broken.

There are two reasons for this. The first reasoning behind this is because in many cases what a woman wants is sex, but not all of them, even though they all love it. Secondly, it saves us time from any idealistic views of what could happen instead of what should happen, which helps in keeping the power of taking the "relationship" where ever we want.

It could have happened that I may have got into a relationship with this asian woman, but it didn't. What inevitably does happen between man and woman is sex, which didn't happen between her and I. My intent made me focus on trying to connect with this girl and do all the sentimental stuff that happens when a man and a woman create an emotional connection to make their "relationship" strong, but she wanted to connect more on a physical level. I also confused her because I approached her in a direct manner, exposing my intentions, but because of a change/shift in my intentions I came off incongruent. She could tell I wanted her to be my girlfriend, so she had to back off for my own good. She didn't want to hurt me. Emotionally, of course.

When our intentions don't meet a woman's intentions it creates a distance between the two people and it makes it difficult for the "relationship", and I use that term loosely, to move forward. A shift in a man or woman's intention creates a shift in focus, thus making it very hard for the "courting" to move forward, especially if both parties aren't on the same page.

So as you see, just to re-iterate, my intentions with the asian woman went from wanting to have sex with her to wanting to be in a relationship with her, even when I hadn't had sex with her. Her intentions from the beginning she met me was to throw her a bone(r).

Is it possible to change a woman's intention to meet ours? Yes, but that is a whole different post or a whole different product, in some cases.

[El Galan]

after reading and re-reading the attraction code, I have been pondering the same thing.

from what I understand, you're intention should be that of dominance. Vin tells us what a dominant man does to achieve this. you're intention then is to BE it- Focus on it. Don't try, just DO (if you focus well enough on it).

anybody care to give me some feedback on this?

I have put a lot of thought into some ideas regarding focus, if anybody wants to go into it further and give me your ideas, please feel free to shoot me a message .

Edit: I have decided not to wait and just go ahead and post what I think.

I think that intentions can be changed, and that there is no one intention to focus on. The big one is dominance, generating allies and being the protector. In certain situations though, I think it helps to have a narrower focus. something I have tried out only twice so far is something i'm going to call for the purpose of clarity, a mini-focus(mf). A mini-focus is an idea of or image of something that you focus on for a quick boost of whatever you want more of.
for example, I went camping recently with a bunch of people, and there was this girl who was VERY geek, but also very cute. I decided to put my idea into action, so i took a second to think of what I wanted to convey/be. I wanted to be playfully flirtatious, so what I did then was visualize myself and applied my idea of playful flirtatiousness to myself the resulting image was me being being playful and flirtatious- my mf.

Most people's idea of playfulness is someone who likes to have fun.
Most people's idea of flirtatiousness is someone who is smooth(this may vary, these are just my ideas). you apply these ideas to yourself and visualize yourself as someone who flirts and is playful, then simply focus on this idea, this image of yourself. This is your mf. what you will find is that in order to become your image you must change the way you act in those moments when you first start focusing. This should happen very easily. If you can image yourself being what you want, then the change is inevitable as long as you maintain focus.
on an additional note, beside visualizing this quick mf, it helps to try and feel it also. see your face and your demeanor in your head. and focus!

THanks, thats my 50 cents. I would greatly appreciate your feedback.

Ninja Edit: thinking of it now, maybe this focus isn't so mini, as being something like playfully flirtatious also conveys dominance, especially when part your idea of playfulness and flirtatiousness involves the DEL. ( Thank God i can finally stop typing...playfully...Arr..flirtatious....)

[Rewok]

Woooow. Lots of value here.

My only 2 cents? Meditate. Meditation is awesome.