Bragging

[Shuai_Ge]

Hello guys

I have just read the attraction code and decided that I am hooked on Vin's teachings! I threw out all other PU material because I feel this stuff is the real deal. In fact all other PU stuff resulted in the worst social year of my life, due to paralysis by analysis - being so overwhelmed with info and outcome dependent that I avoided socializing at all. Because I wanted to do flawless super-pickups. (It was my first year at college) Now all has changed...the focus will just be on having fun and being honest and in the moment.

To the real question.

I have been struggling with the fine line between bragging and simply talking about my accomplishments. It's actually the opposite of what you might think. I don't brag at all - but now its a bit of a problem because everyone is left not knowing anything about anything I do at all. It's almost like when I'm being spontaneous, I feel like mentioning some accomplishment relevant to the topic at hand, but catch myself and refrain from saying anything. It's almost like I am AFRAID to brag.

Here's an example. I was talking to an acquaintance and he is...well he wants to have good game, thinks he has good game (he doesn't) but knows nothing about PUA stuff. Anyways we were talking about what kind of jobs he had before and he mentioned out of nowhere "Well, I've been asked to model before." And waited for a response. Well, I have done some modeling before, but of course I just nodded and smiled. So he walks away feeling higher value. Which is okay. I'm just wondering if it would ever be okay to mention something like that when talking with girls. I mean...I shouldn't be trying to impress her, but it's still a part of my life.

This is just one example, basically, we all have things we could brag about, but when is it actually considered bragging versus just sharing yourself?

[carpe_diem]

If you have something in your life the best way to bring it out is to demonstrate it, rather than talk about it.

I mean trying to impress women in any form is extremely lame, dont do it.

Say for example you are a photographer, you can bring a woman to pick up some film with you, or look at some photos you took. Of if you are a model you could have her go shopping with you, or something where she is contributing to your passion.

I mean if you tell a woman you are an artist, its maybe 10% as powerful as if she helps you paint.

...Matt
DiClassified Trainer

[Lester]

agree with Matt, trying to impress her is lame and if you do that she'll just wonder what's wrong with you.

I can't stand it when people talk only about themselves, it makes you think, that they're over compensating for something or they need your validation.

[Gabler]

Originally Posted by Lester

agree with Matt, trying to impress her is lame and if you do that she'll just wonder what's wrong with you.

Not if you're an badass conversational hypnotist like me, i just brag to people's unconscious.... (Evil Laughter)