Intrigue

[Shuai_Ge]

This sort of ties into my "bragging" post.

How do you talk about your life and vibe yet create intrigue? How do you express yourself without giving too much away?

[Mr. Incredible]

I'm not sure what the answer to this question is, but I suspect that the answer is similar to the answers in the "bragging" post.

Show, don't tell.

Also, I think it's also OK for you to be the International Man of Mystery. NOT knowing too much about you will create intrigue, and maybe even more attraction as she fills in the blanks with her vision of the "perfect guy". Don't deliberately hide information, just let her work for it by asking questions and being curious about you.

[Lester]

As the interaction goes on she starts to talk more while you listen. All you have to do is not talk so much... and let her speak. she'll see that you're not like most guys who talk so much about themselves to brag and impress her... and she'll want to know more about you.

don't go deep to fast with how you feel or what not. I think Vin has a blog about it. If she's 100 percent sure you want to have sex with her of 100 percent sure you don't want to have sex with her then she'll loose interest in you.

have a "I can have it but I don't always take it" attitude.

[rarebreed]

Originally Posted by Shuai_Ge

This sort of ties into my "bragging" post.

How do you talk about your life and vibe yet create intrigue? How do you express yourself without giving too much away?

I think most of the answers you've been getting have been pretty vague, but at the same time very useful. I think the context you're asking the question is when you are interacting with a woman in the beginning of a PU. Am I right?

Of course I am. I'm never wrong.

Okay, so if you want to create intrigue it's important to limit the amount of information you give. For example, I was at a nice little upscale bar last Saturday and I was interacting with the attractive bar tender there. The conversation we were having was about smoking mary jane. I says to her, "Yeah, I gotta stay clean 'cause the career I'm in isn't working out and I just had an interview at another job and I got's to take a pee test.".

So as you can see I'm still situationally relevant to the topic at hand while maintaining intrigue. It's funny 'cause this chicks got game too and she was leaving some open loops for me too, but the lesson here is to limit the information you're giving out and get her to "bite the bait".

Intrigue can be created in many ways. It can be created mostly through personal experiences. Here are two more examples.

Let's say you're trying to cold read a girl, but you want to create intrigue maybe you could say, "You know you're not like most girls. There's something about you that I've noticed, but if I were to tell you, you might not take me serious or you might get a big head.".

Let's say you or the girl bring up the topic of dancing. Maybe you could say, "Oh my God! I had a bad experience with a dance partner one time. I'm still kind of embarrassed about the whole thing.". This actually gives you an opportunity to DISPLAY things about yourself, like dancing, without bragging.

I have a routine story that I use quite often to display things about myself without bragging. I call it the "dip routine". I only use it when it's situationally relevant. I dated a salsa dancer some time ago. I took one of her classes just so I could have a better time when her and I go dancing, but I think I may have made a mistake by doing so. Her and the other instructors were teaching a dance move. It's called the dip. You ever heard of it? Well, basically I kind of bend her over my knee. I tried the move, but ended up dropping her. I felt pretty bad about the whole situation. I don't like to be the one at fault so I told her to lay off the burgers.

True story.

[ice1]

Not giving a straight answer to her questions. I.e If she asks a question like 'where you from' instead of saying like a little town in Lousinana and going into detail where it is and her still not knowing, say a little town , you wouldn't know it

[Zudnic]

Originally Posted by ice1

Not giving a straight answer to her questions. I.e If she asks a question like 'where you from' instead of saying like a little town in Lousinana and going into detail where it is and her still not knowing, say a little town , you wouldn't know it

I get asked that question a lot. My PU is mostly while on business travel at hotels.

Girl: Where you from?

Me: Do you know any towns outside Seattle?

Girl: No not really.

Me: So why the F*ck did you ask! (big smile)

Most find this funny, especially hotel lounge bartenders. Did this in Hollywood with the bartender at the hotel. Another tourist from Britain used the line on a girl he started talking with. Worked well for that guy, he came back and tried helping me with the bartender! Who I got the date with by suggesting an alternate to the Brits idea she should take me clubbing......... How bout dinner at the Hotel instead! Next morning the valets very impressed that I got a date from that girl! Nobody ever did that before!

Its all really about being opposite of what most half decent girls have come to expect. Take today closed a "date" for tonight. Two girls and one guy!

Coffee girl: Have you seen the new Batman?

Me: no but I really want to see it.

Coffee girl: Brother saw it says its awesome. I'm going tonight!

Me: oh its playing here. (small town one theater)

Coffee girl: yeah Friday.

Me: oh its plays Friday. I don't like going to movie openings on Fridays.

Coffee girl: no started last Friday. Thats how my Brother saw it and says its the best one ever. I'm going tonight at 7!

Me: Thats too early for me.

Coffee girl: yeah you should come with us.

Me: would but I don't want to make your boyfriend jealous. I'm a lover not a fighter........

Coffee girl: No with my cousin Andrea. We'll be a threesome!

Me: Hey know I need to be wined and dined a couple times before that! Batman as FRIENDS at 7 is a good start though. So I'll pick you girls up where?

Intrigue comes from not giving expected answers. Both examples picked up in my head both girls are interested or they would not say those things. Kept them interested by not giving typical answers!

[Lester]

To be less Vague but still Vague, no I'm kidding

the idea is that she is trying to get something from you, like information.

There are many ways to create intrigue. and some standard things are.

Like during initial conversation

You can say "hey... is it true what they say about "x" girls."

x - being whatever city you are in.

or when you're texting to get her to text back or call you back.

you can text "OMG something reminded me of you."

also, yes you can talk about yourself but the focus especially in the initial pick up you should be focus on getting them talk more about themselves like my original comment had said. Picking up/Meeting women is not about them liking you, its about you liking them

[rarebreed]

I like to use an opener that creates intrigue right off the bat.

Opener:

"Hey, guy! I came over to prove my friends wrong. I don't care what they say about you. I still think you guys look kinda fun."