Busted!

[Pastiche]

Originally Posted by Zenmind

I was in your same train bro! I'm almost 22 and my girlfriend is 18.

I don't know if this can help you, but in my experience maybe you just have to chill out, being non-reactive and continue to create a wonderful shared reality for you and your girlfriend despite external "frictions". I've been doing this even when her parents were against our relationship, and at some point we had a dinner (me, her and her parents) and you know what? They liked me

You have to be patient and show them that you are a bliss for her, not some sort of mythical devilish monster

I wish you two good luck!

thank you sir
we're actually doing wonderfully
her parents are under the impression that we're over
but we're not

she's actually throwing a family'n'friends party soon
and i'm invited "as a friend"
they'll get to meet me for real
and i really don't know how they couldn't like me

those are all just labels anyway
and don't stop us from doing what we wanna do
in fact, the pressure actually helps us
and pushes us together

[Zenmind]

Nice

I believe that it's a matter of time, someday her parents will understand that the most important think is her happiness and since you aren't a menace then you two will be finally free to love each other under the sun

[Obscurety]

Why should you even care what her parents think?

You should be internalizing DiCarlo tech and working on getting your NEXT girl. (while your with this girl)

You are too attached to this girl...

[Zenmind]

Originally Posted by Obscurety

Why should you even care what her parents think?

You should be internalizing DiCarlo tech and working on getting your NEXT girl. (while your with this girl)

You are too attached to this girl...

I agree with you Obscurety, having power in every relationships is all about CHOICE. It's the only thing that will help you to not become needy in the long term.

But I can feel Pastiche saying: "But I love her, I can't cheat on her!" You also are right, I feel the same for my girlfriend, but maybe we can go out more, meet more people and make more female friends just for remember that she isn't "The Only One" (R).

[Pastiche]

are you kidding me?
we're always going back n forth between "open" and "exclusive"
either way they're just labels
who gives a fuck?

true i do love her
i care enough about her happiness to say
if you can find a guy better than me, go for him
(which is easy to say coz we know that's gonna be fuckin' hard to do )
in the meantime she understands that
my lifestyle entails meeting and hanging with many different people
that includes meeting new girls on a regular basis
getting numbers, flirting, whatever

the whole "open" idea is that
it's only lying and cheating if we're not honest with each other about it
we've talked about it
she believes i can get any girl i want
i believe guys would be stupid to pass her up
that's enough
and well if her parents want her to date around
and i'm already chillin' with different girls
it makes sense

weeks ago i texted a buddy saying
"i need a 2nd girlfriend"
a good one to see regularly during the day,
and crazy one or so to run around with at night.
girls crush on me, give me their numbers, and i don't pursue them
i crush on other girls and get their numbers and whatnot, hangout
and sometimes i feel a little guilty
hell a buddy of mine and i recently ended up hitting on the same chick
she was fucking amazing...
like she's doing things i wanna do later on in life
and as my bro and i headed back home
we agreed to not tell our girls about her
lol!

so it's whatever man, call it what you want
i don't even know what to call it
i just know i like seeing her and i will whenever i can
that's enough
i live a great life man
and it's even better when i'm with her
but when i'm not around her i'm having fun no matter what
she knows that

so you see
it's BECAUSE she's so open and understanding
that i'm so captivated by her
it's BECAUSE we're open to giving each other so much space
that i really don't care lots of times to mess with other chicks
it makes us want to close that space just as much
absence makes the heart grow fonder right?
she's so different from many girls i've met
who aren't as mature and high self-esteem
i lucked out with this one

i definitely wouldn't have acquired these perspectives
if i kept my ass @ the computer reading these forums all day

[Obscurety]

from what I can tell you seem to be very conflicted.

>>i lucked out with this one
On one hand you really like this girl, enough so that you wrote that entire post to defend her. You might even *subconciously* want to "settle" down with her. Maybe in reality, you really are a "one girl" man and want to be monogamous.

>>that i really don't care lots of times to mess with other chicks
On the other side, you want to be a PUA. And to do that you need to pickup more girls.

For me, the thought of picking up other girls while I really liked my current girl pained me. But I did it anyway, and when she had to leave my life, meeting another girl was easy.

So consider seeing other girls anyway while still enjoying her company.

From a long term development perspective, it would be the most rational thing to do.

Best of luck!

[Pastiche]

good points Obscurety

part of me does wanna settle down with her
at the same time,
i don't wanna do such a thing until 5-10 years from now
i have so many things i wanna do right now
that i can't have anything holding me back
we've agreed we don't know if we'll be together then
but all that matters is how we feel right now and cherishing it

when i get burnt out on making my music career happen
i'll be in a better shape to stay in one spot
there are also all kinds of different girls i'm curious about
sure i may really like many of them
but lots of times it also makes me appreciate
what i already have with my girl even more
why go for that when i already have this?

i don't care for whatever it is you call a "PUA"
but if i'm flirting with my girl, i'm gonna flirt with everyone else
the better i get with her, the better i get with others
and the better i get with others, the better i get with her
always progressing and having more and more fun
it's the most non-needy state to approach other girls in
you really don't give a shit either way
such great momentum

when i openly check out or talk to other girls around my friends
they say "don't you have a girlfriend?"
i say i'm taken
not blind


it may seem conflicting to you
i see it as beneficial and complimentary
always growing as a whole

[Zenmind]

Originally Posted by Obscurety

[...] For me, the thought of picking up other girls while I really liked my current girl pained me. But I did it anyway, and when she had to leave my life, meeting another girl was easy.

So consider seeing other girls anyway while still enjoying her company.

From a long term development perspective, it would be the most rational thing to do.

Best of luck!

Good point Obscurety. I need to hook up with more girls.

Originally Posted by Pastiche

are you kidding me?
we're always going back n forth between "open" and "exclusive"
either way they're just labels
who gives a fuck? [...]

Obviously not bro I like your attitude!

Originally Posted by Pastiche

good points Obscurety
[...] when i openly check out or talk to other girls around my friends
they say "don't you have a girlfriend?"
i say i'm taken
not blind

Ah ah Nice!