Little confused..

[nm2002]

What do you say when girl tells you "You suck" but its in a playful state. I told her she sucks more. then she said probobly i do. I wonder how can i take this more sexual I know shes palying with me? Need some advice if possible also vins response.

[ITotem]

You answered your own question when you said you wanted to turn it more sexual. Take her comment as a window of opportunity for escalation.

- You suck
- You are right. How did you know? Have I sucked on you before? Did you like it?

-You suck.
- Yes, especially when they are delectable plump tits.

- You suck
- Yes, come here [pull her in and suck on her ear]

There's 20,000 ways for you to turn it sexual if that's what you want.

[nm2002]

Thats what I was looking for... sometimes I just cant think of those good things...

What would be good mindset for me to have in making those up or taking it more sexual from playful states... (is it always escalation or focusing on something else)

[Dominance]

I have this said to me alot from girls lately.. "You suck" "Thats just mean" etc.. but in a good way..

I either say "Thanks for noticing im glad you like it"...

But with you suck I will tell you something that happened in a club..

I was standing there, had been talking to a girl who was being really friendly.. and she was off talking to her friend or something..

I was just sitting there having a drink (orange juice I don't drink alcohol) and a girl who had been hanging around who I thought was with another guy come up, "do you have a lighter".. I said "no.. but you can still talk to me"... she goes "oh you suck".. I said.. "Actually I also like to crunch, but I like to suck sometimes, mainly on nipples" shes like "oh you crunch on the nipples too" and I said "no I crunch the ice first and then put it all over your body and your nipples" shes like "oohh that sounds nice"..

Talked to her and within about 5 minutes I stood up and she was feeling my ass (forget how it come up in convo) and then I told her to stand up so I could feel hers.. we both enjoyed it.. then after a few more minutes the girl I was talking to earlier, walked past and grabbed me all of a sudden and kissed me.. I was like 'I wasn't expecting that'.. then I talked to the 'you suck' girl a bit longer and said "on a scale of 1-10 how good a kisser are you".. then "lets find out" and kissed her...

Now I could of probably taken her home, but I screwed up.. because I couldn't decided which one of the girls I kissed to choose.. I went back to the other one and pinched her on the ass.. and she wouldn't talk to me because I kissed the other girl.. and then the "you suck" girl didn't want to talk to me because I went back to the first girl.. the first girl said "youve just proven that you will pick up anybody"..

Damn and I thought it would of got them jealous.. it was my ego that made me kiss both of them.. I should of just chosen and been decisive.. I think that after the first one kissed me I could of went back to her and picked her up.. or after I kissed the second one I could of stayed with her and done the same..

But a stupid ego driven mistake stuffed it up :z

Anyway.. I don't know if id recommend using that answer that I used to 'you suck'.. it was just the mood I was in and it worked well and made things sexual pretty quickly..

As for mindsets.. I just look to have fun and 'accidentally' misinterpret things..

If you do some NLP practice with ambiguities you will get good at this and notice chances everywhere..

Some examples from my life..
HER: We should come to the gym together..
ME: (Gave her a suggestive look)
HER: hahaha oopppsss umm I didn't mean it to sound like that (haha sure)
ME: Oh yeah.. you ment it!
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ME: Lets go to x
HER: Lets do it
ME: What.. lets do it.. I barely even know you yet...

This is more C&F so I don't know if it goes with your style, but this is how I am naturally these days so i'm not using it as a technique, its just who I am and I have fun with it..

A frame to try (and I will try this myself) "Everything she says or does she is trying to get me to sleep with her"..

I read this somewhere and I will try it tomorrow with a girl im meeting..

-Ben

[nm2002]

Thats what I was looking for... we'r about on the same page.... but its soo funny somtimes I start laughing... I just started noticing this becaouse I can tell that some of them are starting this kind of sexual stuff first...The other day she asked me to help some other women with something and I said no. then she told me "I know you want to go see her" or something like that but its for sure they are starting first so I want to learn more about this...thanks for the NLP suggestion and the samples.

I didnt know when she told me "I know you want to go see her".. how to respond i just said hmmmm yeaaa.. and went to normal conversation. What would you suggest when she does this?

[Insanity]

besides the stuff itotem gave ya .. id like to add to that that you may wanna check yourself and watch out that you dont fall into the ''need to have a better answer trap''

having cool , witty and or cocky comebacks is awesome..

but dont ever forget the foundation of all this shit is unreactiveness/warm dominance.

You suck

... yeah .. *keeping the eyecontact n comepletely unphased* followed by continuing whatever you were saying or cutting the thread.

[nm2002]

Thnks for all advice. The reson I asked this is she told me this couple of times and I just needed some input, but 1st time I didnt say nothing I just looked at her when she said this, then after 3 sec she said Im just kidding.....I want to be ready for next time to fire back