Credibility and Attainability

[KingB]

Sometimes I have the feeling I have a too strong player vibe. What are good techniques to increase credibility and attainability?

[FreeVerse]

Originally Posted by KingB

Sometimes I have the feeling I have a too strong player vibe. What are good techniques to increase credibility and attainability?

A smile makes you look more approachable. Show a flaw, be human. Nobody likes someone perfect cause they lack the quality of being human.

[Brian]

Credibility is not about looking approachable. I've been told I look very unapproachable, despite being very warm and friendly when strangers talk to me. You can't control people's fears before you meet them - people are going to be insecure and scared no matter how hard you smile and look "approachable."

To boost your cred, I agree with freeverse. Relating your vulnerabilities will help, as long as you are busting on yourself in a relaxed, fun way - NOT seeking reassurance.

Moreso - focus on her character - what makes her tick. A good cold read will show deep understanding of her worldview.

Talk about your family, using their actual names "my dad, Joe, my sister Jane" etc.

Talk about what's deeply important to you. Be open about your values.

Make it real - number close based on an experience you both can share together, not a date, but something from the conversation that you can explore together.

[Brian]

Also, stop flirting and grinning. Be sincere. Be honest. Be calm. No slick persona.

[Insanity]

playervibe is mostly lack of being a real person.
like brian said.. you come off to slick.

my appearance is kind of ''slick'' already it projects player or sexual guy.
So if i would be grinning and look real dirty and doing that liplick type shit.

well thats a player vibe its one dimensional .

So keep your sexuality, your a sexual person period.
But dont be sleazy, and just be all rubbing your heands with real dirty eyecontact. just being sleazy.

just be chill.. nonreactive and relaxed. be you ,
ya know like, you still need to be dominant and sexual and powerfull so to speak like you are but at the same time you can be warm.. and connect, and share stuff about yourself etc.

its like how vin says sexual tension works, you do the sexual tension as soon as you see them shutdown you switch back to authentic convo this whole process.

its the whole player vibe where you just do the whole one dimensional sexual thing without showing any other aspect of yourself and its done in a sleazy way probably to


so basicly have an interest in her, well more be curious.. talk , conversate, be curious about her. vibe laugh, shoot the shit. some sexual stuff in there every now n then.

i know this is a probably a real shitty answer im not in a tought flow state right now..


tell people here what it is your doing give a rough description of how you behave around girls and how you interact with them in set.. people can help you much better that way.