Buyer's Remorse

[the_dicknotist]

Hey guys,

What's the Natural Game philosophy on buyer's remorse, the phenomenon where you close a girl really quickly, before she feels strongly connected to you. As a result, she feels slutty and doesn't want to see you again. Does buyer's remorse truly exist or is there a hole in my game I need to patch up?

A recent example is this sweetheart I closed rapidly last week (LR: How Sweet They Are...). She hasn't been returning my texts and it'd be great to go another few rounds (and maybe even learn her last name).

At this point in my development, I'm more interested in developing ongoing sexual relationships possibly leading to something more rather than just one night stands. The latter are fun and exciting, but get old fast. So, what can I do to increase retention with her and more importantly, future girls as I have a few lined up over these next two weeks.

[diablo]

whatsup dicknotist... i just read LR:howsweettheyare...
HBsweettits probably sees you as "theclubguy" or a one night stand...
you escalated QUICK... which is fucking awesome... props.
and there may be a good chance she's embarrassed to see you (she may feel too slutty).
i'd wait a week... then text her again.

if you wanted to make this girl into your girlfriend... simple.
just don't escalate too quickly... make her work for it (over a period of at least a week, or on a day2 or something.. then she'll have enough of a connection with you to call you a BF).
don't give up though!
there's still a good chance she'll kick it with you again...
she did call you daddy haha...
sounds like you rocked her world

[Brian]

I disagree with Diablo. You did fine. The key is after the sex. Hold her and have her spill her guts out, and just be really reassuring. Show her you understand who she wants to be. Also, do something non-sexual aftewards - go get lunch, go shopping, something along those lines. If you want to see her more than once, go for the fast close just like any other time - it's what you do immediately after sex that matters.

[FreeVerse]

Take her perspective for a minute. She had sex with you so fast it's not normal for her. She's going to look back and wonder why and asses the situation. Which means she might pull back away from you to observe it more. Women are such big observers especially situations.

I agree with Brain. Do something with her that's not about sex. Ask yourself "what can she benefit me other than sex?"Also socially condition women feel cheapened after sex. So after sex she'll be thinking if she's worth something to you and she'll look in your behavior. If she sense the slightest decrease of appreciation of her being, it'll get to her head in a bad way. You have to show that her value as a woman didn't decrease after sex. So yeah do something other than sex afterwards.

[the_dicknotist]

Thanks for the feedback, guys. Brian, I'll definitely take your advice for future lays. What about this one? Is it salvageable or should I cut my losses?

[Brian]

Wait a little over a week and then send an intrigue text, with a plan to lead to a date. Then after you fuck her, do what you should've done the first time. Email me personally if you need some tips on that.

[Redux]

I totally agree with Brian.

Buyer's Remorse is a myth from indirect game.