Your Vibe

[FreeVerse]

Hey guys, I'm very a very rounded person. I'm into Art (all kinds), Sports, Magic, I read all kinds of books, I'm learning magic again, I'm good at Speech, I get great grades. I get the admiration of everyone I meet... but yet I still can't really connect with a person. It also cause me some grief as I can't even connect with some people in my Fam. Well I figured it out it's my vibe.

I always have been told that I'm always "too X." I'm always to much of something. I'm too intimidating, I'm too picky, I'm too into myself, I'm too serious, my standards are too high, I'm a perfectionist, I'm vein."

Well, the answer came in my head now, is that I should show flaws in a confident way, so people don't feel that I'm too "perfect." But I got a question. Is there other ways besides showing your flaws that help you vibe with people? Maybe it depends on the person, eh? Like say a perfectionist would have to show flaws and a normal average type guy would have to show arrogance? Hmmm..?

[PUA_Potential]

Hi FreeVerse,

I think what you need to do is genuinly try and understand a person you are dealing with(man, woman or a child). When you can put yourself in their shoes, feel compassion for them the vibe will come.

I'm working on the same thing and the results are starting to show.
We need to get away from our heads and be more in the present moment. We need to let go of the selfishness and feel the other person. You will actually find great deal of pleasure in doing something for someone jost for the sake of it(no reward needed).

Hope it helps and if you need more clarification just ask.

P.S. I'm a perfectionist too and it can be a drag sometimes.

[FreeVerse]

Originally Posted by PUA_Potential

Hi FreeVerse,

I think what you need to do is genuinly try and understand a person you are dealing with(man, woman or a child). When you can put yourself in their shoes, feel compassion for them the vibe will come.

I'm working on the same thing and the results are starting to show.
We need to get away from our heads and be more in the present moment. We need to let go of the selfishness and feel the other person. You will actually find great deal of pleasure in doing something for someone jost for the sake of it(no reward needed).

Hope it helps and if you need more clarification just ask.

P.S. I'm a perfectionist too and it can be a drag sometimes.

ah! Empathy. You know it's true, I do lack empathy. THATS IT. I'm remembering times in the past when someone would relate an experience to me. I would just say "oh." Mainly cause to be honest it didn't interest me cause I didn't care. I wanted to talk to the person but when they would tell me something that happened to them. In my head for some reason there experience didn't spark interest in me. I was too into myself that I didn't see it there way.

I never complain and so everytime someone complains about something, sometimes in the worst case I'd say in my head something I'm like "shut the fuck up and find a way to go through it."

You know a thought came up in my head as I'm thinking about all the stuff I wrote there. I can really let a girl in my world and experience all the joy of it, I first have to relate to her and give a warm welcome into my world. INTERESTING.

Yeah, being a perfectionsit gets things done, seriously it does, but the affects of it aren't to great, it's not fun being nuerotic. Well, time practice on not trying to be a perfectionist and start relating to others.

Thanks dude, you really helped.