Direct or Indirect approach?

[maverick]

So what kind of approach do you guys use when you approach a women?

Direct approach : Where you walk upto a women and say something staright and sincere like " Hi, its kind of random but i cudnt help but notice that you are very cute and i wanted to come here and say hi and see if you are really really as cute as you look.

This kind of approach is when you walk up confident and you dont use banter and neg as soon as you approach but use it later to show your personality. I think the word cute works best since it shows that you are not some guy looking out for beautiful women all the time and that you are actually sincere and it is sure to bring a smile on her face and then you can continue talking about something you notice about her and from there you can carry on.

Indirect: Where you use a routine, an opener. I think everyone knows what i mean. I think it depends on your personality but i just wanted to know your opinion guys

Cheers

[akaisoras]

I m 100% direct

[funkyrhino]

Both! It's situational.

Indirect works best when the particular woman of interest is surrounded by others (friends, etc) or the logistics aren't favorable for direct (she's in the library or the coffee shop and it's rather quiet)

Direct works the best when the woman of interest has A) giving you initial IOI's or B) is solitary and you have a limited amount of time

[bossyboots]

I'm usually direct but I do mostly street approaches of women by themselves.

To me this has huge advantages because it sets the context right away and it shows confidence and a certain up-front honesty that's refreshing for women. I also don't feel like I need to transition from just being friendly to being interested. I've made it clear right off the bat.

Have you ever met a girl who you KNOW is into you even though she's trying to play it cool? You feel it. You know it. Can you imagine being an attractive woman and having guys come up all day long to ask for your opinion?

I need to work on my indirect approaches because I realize that there are some circumstances where direct isn't appropriate. For example at a club girls are getting directly approached all night long by guys with liquid courage. It's hard to stand out if you go direct in this environment.

Zach

[FreeVerse]

Originally Posted by funkyrhino

Both! It's situational.

Indirect works best when the particular woman of interest is surrounded by others (friends, etc) or the logistics aren't favorable for direct (she's in the library or the coffee shop and it's rather quiet)

sorry bro but I disagree with a part of that. I go direct in coffee shops and I would in libraries.

[funkyrhino]

if thats working for you Verse it's all good man. I'm always aware of the people around her in those places that are a bit more low key.

I find indirect poor for the streets but suitable for bookstores and coffee shops. The time I got the chick home and naked from Starbucks in 45 minutes started very indirect and then escalated quickly.

[Brian]

This is so 2006.

[Qvision]

Originally Posted by Brian

This is so 2006.

elaborate....

[funkyrhino]

Originally Posted by Qvision

elaborate....

he means the whole direct/indirect debate. I don't like the terms either but for the sake of those who do I try to add my own two cents. Personally it wasn't till I found the community that I've heard of a lot of this and I've been going out with women for over 20 years now. LOL!
I also never knew of things like approach anxiety. It just didn't happen with us back in the day.

[Domino]

Originally Posted by funkyrhino

he means the whole direct/indirect debate. I don't like the terms either but for the sake of those who do I try to add my own two cents. Personally it wasn't till I found the community that I've heard of a lot of this and I've been going out with women for over 20 years now. LOL!
I also never knew of things like approach anxiety. It just didn't happen with us back in the day.

I have a friend who is a naural and he doesnt get approach anxiety I asked him "dont you get butterflies or a feeling of something holding you back from approaching random girls", he looked at me and laughed, he then said "no never happens". I even tested him at the mall we walked around I point to a girl or group and say "go talk to her/them" and he does no if's and's or but's. So this got me thinking if naturals were blessed with not having AA, are they different then other men?

[Brian]

Originally Posted by Domino

I have a friend who is a naural and he doesnt get approach anxiety I asked him "dont you get butterflies or a feeling of something holding you back from approaching random girls", he looked at me and laughed, he then said "no never happens". I even tested him at the mall we walked around I point to a girl or group and say "go talk to her/them" and he does no if's and's or but's. So this got me thinking if naturals were blessed with not having AA, are they different then other men?

That's really interesting...I wonder if it's genetics.

When you think about it, AA is the most retarded thing in the world. Why would you be scared of someone who is smaller, weaker, wants to impress you, and generally wants what you have to offer?????

I usually get some butterflies...it used to be really bad. I wonder what it'd be like to have zero fear/nerves.

[funkyrhino]

So this got me thinking if naturals were blessed with not having AA, are they different then other men?

it's all perception management. Anytime you're full of anxiety about talking to someone it's because you have this great deal of outcome and impression dependency thats all.

It's funny when you think about it. Go to an urban club (or black club if you want to call it) and you'll notice the brothas trying to spit game and every girl in their path. It doesn't matter what he looks like or if he's dressed nice or has on a McDonalds uniform he'll try to 'holla' at girls from the most ghettofied overweight chick to a girl that's way beyond his league in the same manner. LOL! Trust me I've spent a lot of years in urban clubs being black myself.