How do I deal with her downstairs neighbors rude & deprecating comments?

[needmygame]

Hey Gents,

I've been hanging out with this girl for the last 8 months and I’m trying to see if I can keep her, She's very guarded when it comes to intimacy which is another subject in itself and why I'm still in for the long haul. With that issue set aside, I like to ask how I can deal with her downstairs neighbor. She’s a complete biatch to me in front of my lady friend and will occasionally pop in to talk to her while were hanging out. I try to be friendly to this girl but she always says "what are you lookin at?" and on numerous occasions has asks my lady "why do you hang out with this guy?" "You should come go clubbing with me, drop him and get a real guy!", she will say "You should get rid of this guy and come find some guys with me, because I would drop him in a heartbeat!" I'm a good guy and my lady knows it but for some reason she wont stand up to this girl and state "cause I like him" etc. instead we both just shrug it off because its kind of humorous. But I think it could damage my ladies perception of my "coolness" if it continues? I could think of a million rude things to say to this biatch downstairs but I don’t want to be that cruel! I'd rather win her over and "Sink with the resistance" as some would say so this biatch will respect me and talk me up in front of my lady instead of down. Any ideas out there on how to deal with this biatch without destroying her with rude comments?

[Abraxis]

That's a rough situation. I think you've done well not saying something rude back, it's a good show of warm dominance to demonstrate that the petty rudeness of others doesn't phase you or put a dent in your identity. The last thing you need to do is get in some jerry-springer style shouting match in front of your woman and look oversensitive and insecure. Of course, if this keeps going on, after more than a few times, you have to say something, just out of self respect. I don't know what exactly you should say. Maybe just ask her why she has a problem with you, but maintain a tone of warm dominance... in other words, you're not appologizing for anything, or acting hurt, you're just curious about the source of her bizarre, disrespectful behavior. That's my advice, your mileage may vary.

[Brian]

Next time she disrespects you, calmly walk up to her, nose to nose, look her dead in the eye, and say,

"Be careful. I've been patient with you so far, because you're a girl. But I won't have you upsetting my girl like that."

If she says "ooh or else what?" keep looking at her in the eye and tell her to leave because she is embarrassing herself.

Frame it as if by being a bitch to you, she is really hurting your girl, and she is embarrassing herself by acting like a child.

Also, tell your girl that you won't come to see her anymore if she doesn't do something about her neighbor. The next time you guys are hanging out, tell her she is not to let the neighbor girl in. If she does, calmly walk out.

The key is that a) she is hurting your girl, b) she is embarrassing herself, c) you are a grown man and don't waste your time with retardo shit like this.