Attraction Code Reviews

[Vin DiCarlo]

A few guys mentioned that they wanted to write testimonials or reviews of The Attraction Code...

Please post your comments long or short in this thread.

If I use your review in a newsletter I'll give you a free month of Mastermind

Thanks!

Vin

V.

I've looked into most of books and products available in this field and done two live programs. Based on constant trial and error going out and meeting women, I was getting a clearer and clearer idea of "what women want". Everything you outline in the book reached out and spoke to my experiences, both good and bad. Every epiphany I had, you expand on. And then you present five more! Amazing. Your book goes right to the core of how a naturally attractive man thinks and behaves because it is part of his character. This resource should be in public libraries under gender studies.

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[dinamo]

"The Attraction Code" is a window of opportunity I highly recommend you jump on. I would consider myself to be a passive person, often missing chances and later regretting it. When I saw Vin's email stating "The Attraction Code" was going live, I knew I had to make a quick decision. What did I do? Within minutes I pulled out my credit card and purchased my first pickup product. I am glad I finally took action. If I hadn't, I would be where I was 3 days ago, contemplating in my head how I'm going to become a PUA. It's only been two days and the material has already made an impact on my life and more importantly thinking. The emphasis on changing your state allows you to be completely natural and authentic. If you are facing the decision of purchasing the attraction code, I recommend you consider the benefit you will receive from it, while considering the cost. In my case it's the most important book i've ever read, while only costing me the price of a cheap new t-shirt. Changing my life is well worth the new shirt . Good luck and happy sarging.

-Miro

[Hengman]

I'll give a brute honest review about this product.

The Attraction Code is a MUST buy. Vin and other contributers actually go into even the smallest details on how attraction works just on the logical level side of things. The book also uncover flaws that are in the Pick Up Community, such as certain jargons and their definitions. Also, the book provides lengthy examples by using stories of a guy who was a chode to a guy who is a beast. These examples are very helpful for men who have issues or sticking points that they want addressed. This book really proves why attraction exists and how it exists -- just the whole fundamentals. People who aren't checking out this book, or even not trying to read it are the ones that are missing out.

Hengman.

[feelfree]

I must confess I am a bit of a keyboard jockey. I probably read as much as I sarge or otherwise interact with women. Is there something in this book then, for a guy like me?

Yes. But it is not more theory. I have already heard most theory out there. The book itself, although it contains some new stuff, is rather a long argument to act rather than read. The book gives you the right focus. The right focus in any given situation, and in a larger scale, in life. And that is the attraction code.

I think the community has been moving towards the attraction code the last few years, and now Vin is the first to formulate it clearly. At first there was an explosion of theories, as in any new field, and lately they have been moving together and become more akin again (in my view). But all these theories and techniques have been used by naturals and evolution for thousands of years. The techniques are constantly re-invented. You don’t need to know about them to do pick-up. The existences of naturals prove that pick-up is easy. Naturals did not accidently trip over and figure out techniques. They accidently had the right focus and were not distracted from it by early failure as so many of us.

Merely by being a man you are inherently attractive to a woman. Vin teaches you have to be a man. You know how to be a man, but if you have a lack of success with women, it is because you are easily distracted from this knowledge. You end up in negative behavior loops or techniques you read about on the internet, rather than enjoying the woman in front of you. Enjoy the moment, and she will enjoy you.

How? Don´t worry, I think most you need to know is in the Attraction Code. At least all that can be learned from the book. His theory is simple, which is a good thing both when it comes to science and pick-up. As a keyboard jockey, I no longer feel the need for more theory. It can all be boiled down into the attraction code anyway. The shine of theory is gone, and that’s a good thing. After all, our true intentions are to meet more women.

The criticism I have is mainly towards the evolutionary explanation of the code in the first few chapters. In some details I disagree (as a neuroscientist I am curious about evolution and do not totally agree with Vin’s (and the community’s) view of this). Right or wrong, that does not affect the theory itself though, so this remark is of limited significance.

I have always (as long as I known about the community) had DiCarlo as my “guru”. But this is the first product I buy from him. Why? Mostly because I can’t stand the marketing lingo of the community. You know when you want to buy a product and have to read a text in several font sizes and colors in order to work up compliance and all the rest. It is like the PUAs product pages have been constructed by that same, retarded kid. I feel like a girl being hit on by a player. As a marketer Vin comes off as having an agenda, the exact thing he teaches you to avoid as a man/pick-up artist. Don’t get distracted by this. He knows his stuff and the price is really low now that he has to compete with all these other “gurus” with e-books. If you only going to buy one book, make sure it is this one.

One reason I have not bought a book before this one is all the information that is out there for free. Why buy information that is free in abundance? Much of the power of the Attraction Code is in the information it leaves out. Your focus on one thing only.

The Attraction Code lights up the path I have already been walking the last years. Only now it is a rail road. Next stop? Happiness.

/Feelfree

[LByron]

excellent book vin (and v good review feelfree).

I've finished reading the attraction code and found it fascinating. Vin's explanations were spot on and i felt that everything he said was truthful i.e. upon reflection i identified in my past experiences with people the characteristics/mindsets/beliefs he has highlighted.

However...can someone though please post a few quick comments as to their application of the attraction code?

I've only read it once so i reckon i should read through again and take notes as vin suggests. But does anyone have any practical advice for implementing the code?



LByron

Originally Posted by LByron

I've only read it once so i reckon i should read through again and take notes as vin suggests. But does anyone have any practical advice for implementing the code?

The book streamlines your thinking about meeting & attracting women > that will strengthen your focus > improve your state > allow you to act on your intent without inhibition. The implementation is in the doing.

[Vin DiCarlo]

I would recommend you read the book a second time - if you are looking for a concrete step by step way of applying the 'Code, then you are not quite at a point where you understand it fully.

You read, internalize, and ACT... Step by step application is a less-than-optimum focus.

Vin

[hub_bub]

I'm pretty disillusioned with PUA products. I wonder if they are trying to teach me something or just make a product page shiny and slick enough for me to hand over my credit card information.

While Attraction code doesn't make me stop wondering, it is a pretty bad ass product, ranking on my top 5 must reads for a PUA. And cheap, $37(it's be like 15 on Amazon or Barns and Noble).

Attraction Code is like a product I've never seen. It contains ZERO outer game. At the same time, its not really inner game. It actually just provides what the marketing lingo says it provides: Transforms your mind into that of a PUA or whatever.

The Book is pretty much method agnostic. You can use it with whatever you current method is. I find that aspect quite appealing because it just lets me upgrade whatever I'm doing. Which is just my own method at this point... okay okay with lots of JM :-).

Any way, compared to his other free products and articles, this product is simply MASSIVE. It is unexpectedly complete. Not to take away from the quality, but Vin's writings are usually terse with big letters. The short piece have also proven effective in my own training though.

I don't think I can emphasis how full and developed the ideas in the attraction code are. It is very well organized information, it is also explain through multi level narratives (Patric's Story) that develop through out the book. I got the feeling that Vin and Brain were conscious about different learning styles and made the effort to present the information in a way that would help both left and right brainers.

Now about the actual material. It is not necessarily brand new never discussed about ideas, but what it is is a different perspective and take on them.

It contains 4 chapters that are very long (~270 pages of medium sized font).

Chapter 1 - Goes into detail about social status, dominance and how it relates to attraction and how to think of these things. This to me was a very helpful chapter because it cleared up many erroneous ideas I've had about dominance.

Chapter 2 - Goes back in time so to speak, it goes into detail about the developments in the past and how attraction in the way you think are now effected by it.

Chapter 3 - I like this chapter because it goes into the mythical illogical women ideas. This one really helped bust some old ways of thinking and has put me on the right track. I was kind of headed in that direction after reading David Shade's book, Foundations.

Chapter 4 - This part actually goes into the attraction code. it even has Diagrams. It is the most abstract part of the book and will probably take the most time to understand.

The books touches on so much its hard to write a decent review. But I will say, I would not hesitate to buy this book again and I've already read it twice. I've been in the community for over 2 years now and this book is indeed a breath of fresh air.

I want to make it very clear what this book is not, it is NOT a method, it is NOT a make me feel good inner game, it is a way of thinking to be successful at whatever method you chose.

It also comes with 4 bounous books, This is where the outer game lives.

Secrets of Sexual Tension - this is basically a previously free free blog post prettied up and slightly revised. I have gotten phenomenal results with this.


Objection Game - this is essentially the same deal as number Secrets of Sexual Tension, a prettied up blog post. It does seem to contain more examples though. Almost like a routine stack. I haven't field tested this product yet though.


No Flakes v2 - This is pretty similar to the first with more examples. It seems a lot clearer though. could be mind games.


DiCarlo Escalation ladder v2 - this is the most similar to the original of all the products. I've tried this before, and I'm not sure if I'm doing it right. After reading attraction code, I want to try it again, because now I'm inspired.

Pros
- does as advertized.

- Very clean presentation and professional looking

-- Meaty material

-- 4 bonus books that look great and work well too.

Cons
-- Barns and Noble or amazon would have this at 15-20 bucks. But its cheap for an ebook

-- Kind of up sells the boot camp a little. Its not too annoying or uncommon practice though

-- I hate the product page. It almost made me not want to look at the book. I'm tired of long Marketing Spiels. I'm happy that its easy to skip all that and just buy the book.

Overall This books has joined my arsonal. Currently the only material I'm looking at is David Shades - Fondations, Vin DiCarlo - Attraction Code, and Juggler's Book and children articles plus a sprinkle of RSD.

[johnny]

I give the book a 9 out of 10 rating. I have read many e-books on dating and this by far is my favorite one. Attraction Code was a fast read and made a lot of sense compared to the other dating books I have read. I highly recommend this book to any beginner getting into the community, any guy who has struggled with attraction and any guy who wants to get good with women in general.

Vin, your insight on inner game is what I like most about your book. The 4EP Model is probably the most important element for me. I’ve been in this community for about a year and know one has talked about focusing your attention. This was a huge epiphany for me. Guys wonder why they can’t think of what to say when they are speaking with a women – the 4EP explains why.

I cannot give this book 10 out of 10 because there is one section on shaping that I found to be a bit confusing. I thought it could have been explained better; however other guys may have found it easy to understand.

Other great points about this book include:
- Traits of a dominant man
- How to really deal with fears and anxieties
- Understanding compliance
- Reading and disarming “shit” tests
- How to properly escalate
- Understanding the 4EP Model and how it can help you connect with women
- Knowing how to deal with the frictions that affect your state
- Learning how to properly focus your attention
- Following one’s journey from AFC to PUA

Thank you Vin.

[Lester]

I didn't want to write a review so early. the book said in a about 7 months or less that I would be transformed into a new person who can meet women. So my thought was to write a review seven months after I read the book... but I feel that I can write a review now.

I'm going to get straight into what's happening now (after having the code for less than a month) Yes, I've been told that I'm great with women so maybe it was a faster process for me, but that doesn't take away from the fact that I still wanted to help myself. meaning I wasn't living the life I wanted when it came to relating with women.

but heres what's happening now, in real time. I can enjoy a sexual experience with a woman with a simple phone call. We (me and her) both know that if we meet up, it's going to be about sex. She's ok with it and I am too. To clarify it she told me I can call her anytime for whatever I need. but you can interpret that as she want me to call her for what she needs or wants.

I'm going into bars, talking to everyone. Sit down at the bar, get the bartenders name. I'm taking care of the waitresses and making sure they're doing good. I'm going around the bar, inside and out asking people how they're doing, seeing if they're having a good time. And after I do all this, it's like I'm the Man that mixed everyone energy into on environment just by going around and say hi to everyone. You can feel the energy of the environment as a whole. Pretty damn metaphysical.

I'm being "eye-fu*ked" all the time... I could be in the grocery store buying hot sauce, I could be sitting at a coffee shop smoking, in a bookstore, reading, in a club dancing, wherever. Women know somethings go on with me and it's has nothing to do with how I look, what car I'm driving, how much money I have, women are looking and they probably don't know why.

I'm the selector, I got standards and not looking for a piece of ass but someone interesting and that helps me weed out all the ones I don't want and I now know what I want and that's what I go for.

I'm flirting with women... and its damn fun! Basically, I feel how HEALTHY it is to show your interest in a woman, not in a hounding way, but in a way that's healthy and PROUD to show his INTEREST or DESIRE in a woman. I CAN'T EMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH, to be comfortable and proud to show your interest. There's no shame, there's nothing wrong, with showing your interesting in a woman. Society has conditioned us by saying it's wrong to do so. But SHOWING YOUR INTERESTING IN A WOMAN IS NATURAL AND FUN. WE'RE HUMAN BEINGS, and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING HUMAN. IT'S OK TO BE HUMAN.

I use to think about women all the time, even though I wanted to be independent. Well I was, in a way. I had goals that where more important, but my concentration was mostly on women. Now, knowing what I know, I can concentrate on my goals and the women come naturally. I don't feel the need to go out and feel that pressure to meet a woman. I go out for other reasons besides meeting a woman. I go out to have fun, to enjoy my day off, because it's sunday, and the women come naturally. Because It's a natural thing. That is something also very important to me. and that's to be INDEPENDENT... and after you're independent you can find ways to put women in your life.

I'm paying it forward. I'm mentoring and putting guys out there and kicking their ass. I'm telling them to go talk to groups, to talk to women older than them, to go to that girl and tell me what's her favorite ice cream... and that's great too.

Maybe I should of waited six more months to write my review... but I can write my review now because I'm happy with my development and to be happy as I develope even more in the months to come. I'm meeting women in the day, at night in the a bar or club, I'm even talking to a bisexual woman on the internet who knows other bisexual women. I'm also going to say, I'm meeting high quality women... cause that counts for a lot. Women, who have jobs, their own place, and are independent... and for you guys who want to know. Their petite, nice ass, all the nice curves, etc if that's important for you to know... I'm not going to like, physical features attract me... but I feel there's more than that.

That's my review.

Thanks again Vin and Brian.

OH yeah, this isn't a "high" or anything. Cause even natural highs come down... I'm meeting women because that's who I am... it's not because of a "high" that I'm feeling. I'm meeting women because it's within me to meet them.

[the_dicknotist]

The Attraction Code is the most important, comprehensive, and effective book on pick-up I've ever read. It's the most important book on seduction written since Neil Strauss' The Game. Yes, it's that damn good. Why is it good? The authors break things down to the absolute fundamentals that are inherent in any successful PUA. There are no techniques, mantras, or absolutes. They don't teach you how to act like a certain type of seducer to get women. They teach you how to develop the mindset of an attractive, sexually powerful man.

In the book, natural game is defined as truth - the truth that everything you need to attract the women of your dreams are already within you. You just have to recognize and eradicate the self-defeating thoughts that are getting in your way. You have to harness your own gifts and have the courage to unleash them. Fundamentally, your thoughts are what make or break your results.

What I respect the most about Vin is that he's such a thoughtful PUA. Just when I think I have it all figured out, he releases something that fundamentally challenges my beliefs and compels me to dig deeper. When I read on the Attraction Code website his argument that inner game is not only unnecessary, but may get in your way, I balked. My inner game work has helped me on several levels, including my profession, my education, and all of my relationships.

After finishing the book, I have a deeper understanding of what he and Brian are really saying. People who work on their inner game fall into the same trap that befalls people who study outer game. They read book after book, take bootcamp after bootcamp, and continually work on themselves as a way of postponing taking action on this area of their lives. Rather than becoming a vehicle of self-improvement, their inner game work becomes yet another shield to hide behind. Change is scary and dealing with women can be petrifying. Yet at the end of the day, you have to man up and take action to change your life.

I'd agree with the authors that having the right mindset is indispensable to seducing women. However, I'd also argue that a strong inner game is crucial to seducing high quality women. It's true that confidence is not necessary to attract women. There are plenty of self-hating men out there who can score with chicks. They just don't hide their sexuality. However, they attract what they put out there: women who are as messed up as they are. As another example, if you recall, the first few months after the Drills bootcamp were both exciting and frustrating for me. I got plenty of lays but with low quality women whom I couldn't hold on to. I was needy and insecure and those are exactly the types of women I penetrated all last summer. Nowadays, I'm attracting women who move me on a deep level and challenge me to become an even better man, yet I could only have met them if I had the inner game to radiate those qualities that drew them towards me.

I especially enjoyed a section in the book that lays out the fundamental concepts that underlie the DiClassified Drills bootcamps. Having been through one of them last year, it was fascinating to see the thoughtfulness and ingenuity that went behind each drill, which is designed to keep you focused on your goal (sex, relationship, or whatever it may be) even in the face of situations or events that challenge your emotions. If I were to pick one flaw in my game, it's still in this area. Too much of my success depends on my mood. If I'm in a good mood, I'm on fire, getting plenty of free meals, attention, and sex. If I'm in a bad mood, forget it. My next pick-up goal is to train my focus so that my attention is impervious to outside "state frictions." (A state friction is merely anything that threatens your emotional state. Read more about it in the book).

The strength of the book is also its weakness. When I bought the book, I was afraid that it'd be designed for newbies and more seasoned PUAs like myself would once again be ignored. On the contrary, this book is actually better suited for the intermediate and advanced. Experience out in the field will deepen the knowledge you acquire from the book. There were many times as I was reading when I told myself, "yeah, that jives with my experience!" "Oh, so that's why such and such went down like that." It's both a summary of everything you need to know and an eyeopener of how far you need to go.

At the same time, I wonder if newbies will truly understand these concepts or if they will fly over their heads. When I finished the book, my first thought was, "Damn! If I had this back in 2001, I could've avoided so many mistakes and so much pain." Then again, I probably would've read it and thought to myself, "huh?!" Comparing this book with Double Your Dating, which I actually did read back in '01, I'd go for the quick fix. Cocky and funny is easier than training your focus. The the book offers no shortcuts, just a broad roadmap. You have to take action.

Don't worry though. The DiClassified crew included plenty of extras to assuage newbies.

Up at the top of the list is the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder, 2nd Edition. The first edition revolutionized my game and the concept of kino. How do you improve on perfection? Well, not much. This new version is essentially the same, except it includes many nuances involved that I had to learn the hard way while in field. If you're a DEL fan or continue to struggle with kino, this e-book is a must have.

Next, we have No Flakes, which is another must have. This book was previously available to David DeAngelo's Interview With Dating Gurus subscribers but here it is in all its glory with much nicer graphics. This book truly is a product in of itself! You can't always get same night pulls. More often than not, you have to get her digits and set up a future meeting. If you've ever struggled with flakes, this e-book is for you. Hint: texting and intrigue are the way to go...

Next, we have Secrets of Sexual Tension, which is definitely another must-have for newbies. Much of this material was covered on a much more comprehensive and deeper level in the drills bootcamp, but if you're strapped for cash, this e-book is the next best thing. These concepts along with Gunwitch and Daniel Rose's Sex God Method gave me a solid foundation to build the Dicknotist philosophy. If you want rapid pulls and to have women fingering themselves while thinking of fucking you, this book's for you.

Next up is Objection Game, an e-book aimed at addressing the five most common objections women have to having sex with a new guy. I won't list them, but you probably already know them. This e-book is an extension of a blog entry Vin wrote several months ago on the same topic. The blog seems to be down, but luckily, he saved this valuable piece and expanded on it a bit. This is one of the few times where my experience actually contradicts his teachings. Ever since implementing what I learned in Sexual Selection Switch, I've found that my LMR is virtually non-existent. With the exception of one girl, all the rest I banged last year jumped me! Granted, my pulls are from cold approaches, not social circle game where these concepts may be more applicable. This e-book may be useful for newbies or people who can't afford s-cubed. Ironically, s-cubed makes this e-book obsolete.

The next addition isn't a full book, but merely a chapter in Jay Cataldo's Get Your Girl Back. I have no idea who he is and why this extra was included in the package. The very premise seems to go against what Vin teaches. Shouldn't you be flipping the Sexual Selection Switch and have her dying to fuck you? Why are you trying to get her back? If you're doing everything correctly, you wouldn't lose her in the first place. I skimmed this one and I regret doing even that much.

Next, we have a free one month membership to Vin's Mastermind group, which appears to be an ongoing training for natural game students. It's $67 a month, which is pretty steep for a monthly membership, but worth it if it gives you much value. There isn't too much up on the site yet except for a few recordings, a forum, a chat, and forum archives of DiClassified trainers. I hope they develop a way for subscribers to download mp3s. As it stands now, you have to listen to it on your computer, which makes things more difficult because some of the recordings are quite long. For iPod lovers like myself, I'd much rather listen as I drive or workout. So, things are sparse now, but I'm sure things will pick up rather quickly.

The last extra only went to the first 99 orders and luckily, I am one of them! I haven't had my call yet so I can't comment, but I have high expectations. Stay tuned....

The final selling point of the whole package is not only a money back guarantee but the ridiculously low price of $37. Vin is probably the only guru who underprices his products (except for the Drills bootcamp and the Mastermind membership). I remember getting Dating Diablo for $45 when a selling price of $200 would have been justified. I still listen to it monthly to "drill" his teachings into my forgetful head. I bought Sexual Selection Switch for around $100 or so (don't recall), but it obliterated LMR for me, which is worth much more than the selling price. So, $37 makes this book an obscene steal and worth checking out, given the amount of value included in the package. Now, if he would only release something detailing "Pimp Game" in more detail... Final scores: Main e-book: 4.5/5. Extras: 3.5/5. Overall score: 4/5.

[Lester]

2 months after my 1st Month's Review.

It's the gift that keeps giving, why? Because they it doesn't give you fish, it teaches you how to fish.

after reading this book i've become totally aware of my thoughts in the present moment and how I thought about dating generally and specifically.

it's really my thoughts that we're holding me back.

For instance I'll give you something to work with right now. I'm going to admit, I was a hound. I was very sexual but in a drunk frat guy type of way. Now providing that she's drunk and horny, I can get a way with that... but i'm not settling for that.

I became aware of my thoughts when I would approach. I had this thought "wow she's really hot, I gotta fuck her."

bam, instand horn dog behavior and mentality.

now, I'll switch that to what Brian had said. He said figure out what makes her tick. So my focus is "what makes her tick, what get her excited about life."

This alone changed my vibe, I'm smiling I'm being playful and I'M BEING REAL. I'm BEING GENUINE BECAUSE I WANT TO KNOW ABOUT HER. THE PART OF HER THAT'S MOST EXCITED ABOUT LIFE.

And when the time comes to be sexual it wont be like a frat guy whose drunk. Because I've changed my focus when it came to that as well. I changed the way I thought.

Craig aka El Cuchillo were talking about this the other day and I realized there were two ways to escalate with a sexual vibe.

1) Like a drunk Frat guy,

2) Playfully

In my head I knew you had to be playful but my focus was wrong... So I changed that as well... and when I smile at a woman it makes her intrigue and my sexual vibe is there.

Now I'm going to tell you about the media... I'm really pissed right now about how society conditions you to believe that sex for a man means he's getting lucky, That's total bullshit!!! It should be, that we're giving our sex to women who deserve it!

And With confidence in your sexuality and the right focus you'll wonder why the fuck did you ever believe that having sex meant you got lucky. With the right focus and confidence you'll behave in a way that says "my sex is a gift" because one it's true and now, you're showing it.

Be Aware of your focus.

It's really HOW YOU THINK!!!!!!

[ice1]

I've read books by Mystery,Badboy and pratically every other Pua you can think of. The Attraction code is by far the best . It doesn't go into endless routines and techniques. It says you don't need them. So it simplified things.
As Einstein once said "Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius and a lot of courageto move in the opposite direction." The book says , you're enough. It gives 11 clues to the code , each helping you to understand it better and its' relation to Female attraction . In the first 2 chapters it explains Human Evoloution and why thats important to the code . Then it goes onto a 3rd chapter about Female Pyschology and what personailty traits they feel attracted to . Meanawhile, giving an inspiring story about someones journey from chump to natural . Also it gives sections on shaping a womans behaviour, shit tests and 11 beliefs of an attractive identy and more.Finally , it gives the 4EP model of expression and how to focus so your behaviour so its attractive. You won't even have to think about it after a while, it'll just become part of your identity. Thanks Vin!