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Old 07-30-2007, 06:30 AM
Vin DiCarlo Vin DiCarlo is offline
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Default Recent Insights into the Learning Process

As a veteran of the game, it has been a long time since I have learned anything new...

And recently, studying with Mr. X (see http://www.strippersystem.com for details) I have been able to both push my boundaries and take in an incredible amount of information in a very short time.

I attribute this to my lifelong journey of learning about new things, and constant habit of challenging myself.

But recently, in learning new social behaviors, I was a lot more self-aware than I was, say 6 years ago.

And given this awareness, I was able to clearly see my internal processes in a way that I could instill in others.

Basicaly anytime X showed me a new technique or behavior, the first thing I would do (before trying the tehnique) would be to think to myself "Who would I have to be such that this behavior would be natural?"

That way - I would give myself the opportunity for some small personal evolution each time I learned a new technique - as opposed to trying the technique as my current self. Does that make sense?

So I have come up with a short list of questions you can ask yourself each time you read or learn a new technique that will make learning and internalizing the technique happen 10x faster:
  1. Who would I have to be such that this techique comes naturally?
  2. Where would my attention be focused such that this technique comes naturally?
  3. What would I feel like internally such that this technique happened naturally?
  4. What would I believe about myself such that this technique would happen naturally?
  5. How would it look if I saw a natural doing this technique? What would he sound like?
So each time you get a new technique - go into the field, and before you execute the technique through the filter of your old belief system, instead - ask yourself these questions first, and notice the difference.

Vin
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Old 07-30-2007, 08:46 AM
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Good post. I like it cause it rings true with me and I see how it goes. When you think of someone who would do it, it becomes more comfortable cause you know that person would be comfortable doing it. It also takes away a lot of pressure off you.

I'd like to add. Thinking about the after effect of what you're learning helps you get motivated. For instance. If you're learning how to converstate with women, thinking about how great it will be after you conversated with a woman, and how'd great it would be after, will help motivate you learn.

Also in meeting women a lot of anxities come up or some emotional rocking, recognize that it's natural to feel that way when you're not sure about yourself and you're tying something out of your boundaries. Use your nuts to go through it. Then as you continue doing so you get familiar and comfortable doing so and it becomes a part of you that is natural.

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Old 07-31-2007, 04:00 AM
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Vin;
I wouldn't be surprised if this is a technique that actors use to "get" a character. I think that it has the potential to make things more objective, yet playful at the same time.

How about:

If my new technique doesn't work the first(or tenth) time, will I be able to appreciate the humor of my situation, and then bounce back with even greater energy while absorbing the lesson?
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Old 08-04-2007, 09:17 PM
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This is dope.

I've always focused becoming some one, rather than doing some thing.

It works.
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Old 08-07-2007, 01:47 AM
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This is a golden post, so many have all the answers, and none of the questions.
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Old 08-07-2007, 02:48 AM
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Quote:
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This is a golden post, so many have all the answers, and none of the questions.
Well said.
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Old 10-03-2008, 02:51 PM
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Can you ask these questions to make a mindset work faster
or is it only good for techniques?

Btw, techniques are things like escalation, cocky funny, etc.
right?
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